ISLAMIC MANNERS-3Entering/ Leaving a House2.3 GREETING Qatada, a prominent follower (Tabi'y), said: Greet your family when you enter your house. They are the most worthy of your greeting.' Al- Tirmidhi reported another Hadith whereby Abu Huraira (RA) stated that the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: If you join a gathering, greet them, and if you want to leave, dismiss yourself. The first is no less important than the second.' Imam Al-Suyuti in his book Praising the Abyssinians' cited from Abo Taleb Al-Jumahi's Al-Tahyat the following: Every nation has a way of greeting. Arabs will say salams. Persians Emperors require prostrating and kissing the floor. The Persians touch their hand on the floor in front of the king. The Abyssinians quietly, gather their hands at their chest. The Romans uncover their head and bow. The Nubians would gesture as if kissing the guest and then putting both hands on their face.' All these greetings, except Salam, are forbidden. Imam Nawawi in Al-Majmu said It is preferred to say Bismillahi Arrahman Arrahim' when you enter your house or others' houses. You ought to say Salam if you enter it regardless whether it was empty or occupied. You say a prayer when you go out. Imam Tirmizi and Imam Abu Dawood narrated a Hadith by Anas that the Prophet said: If you say in the name of Allah, I seek help from Allah, no strength or means but with Allah. Then he will be told: you are protected and saved. The Satan will leave him. He cited another Hadith narrated by Muslim that Jaber bin Abdullah related that he heard the Prophet, peace be upon him, saying: If you enter your house and pray to Allah when entering and before your meals, the Satan will say [to his group]: No sleep and no food. If you entered it without praying to Allah. Satan will say [to his group]: You secured your sleep and dinner.' 2.4 ANNOUNCING YOUR PRESENCE Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal said: When a person enters his house, it is recommended that he/she creates noise by coughing or tapping his/her shoes.' His son Abdullah said: When returning home from the mosque, my father used to announce his arrival before entering, by tapping with his shoes or coughing.' Bukhari and Muslim reported that the Prophet denounced those who unexpectedly surprise their families at night, whether returning from travel or otherwise, because it makes them appear to be distrustful. 2.5 SEEKING PERMISSION TO ENTER A man asked Abdullah bin Mas'wüd: Should I ask permission to enter my mother's room?' He answered him, Yes. There are certain circumstances in which you would rather not see her. Zaynab, the wife of Abdullah ibn Mas'wüd said that upon reaching the door, Abdullah used to make noise, fearing that he might surprise us and encounter an embarrassing situation. A man asked Huzaifa ibn Al-Yaman, Should I ask permission to enter my mother's?' Huzaifa replied, Yes, if you do not ask for her permission, you may encounter an embarrassing situation.' Müsa the son of the companion Talha ibn Obaidillah said: My father went to my mother's room. I followed him as he entered, he turned toward me and pushed me down forcing me to sit. Then he reprimanded me: How dare you to enter without permission?' Nafi,' the patron of Abdullah bin Omar said: When any of Ibn Omar's children come of age, Ibn Omar would assign him/her another room. He would not allow any of them to enter his room without permission.' Ata bin Abi Rabah asked Ibn Abbas: Should I seek permission when calling on my two sisters?' Ibn Abbas answered, Yes.' I said: I am their guardian, supporter and provider of their needs.' He said, Would you rather see them naked?' Then he read the Quranic verse, And when the children among you come of age, let them ask for permission, as do those senior to them in age; thus does Allah make clear His signs. Allah is full of knowledge and wisdom.' Thus, Ibn Abbas concluded that asking permission is obligatory for all people. Ibn Mas'wüd said: A person should seek permission whenever entering the room of a father, mother, brother and sister.' Jaber also said: A person should seek permission whenever entering the room of a son, a daughter, a mother -even if she is old, a brother, a sister, or a father.' from the book ISLAMIC MANNERS Engr.Sulthan |
www.keralites.net          |
To subscribe send a mail to Keralites-subscribe@yahoogroups.com.
Send your posts to Keralites@yahoogroups.com.
Send your suggestions to Keralites-owner@yahoogroups.com.
To unsubscribe send a mail to Keralites-unsubscribe@yahoogroups.com.
Homepage: www.keralites.net
