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Wednesday 8 August 2018

[www.keralites.net] Detached attachment - Sudha Murthy

Detached attachment - Sudha Murthy

I specially dedicate this post to my friends, who are totally dependant on their children's lives, to nurture their own selves emotionally.

Please develop your own intersts, hobbies etc, however mundane they seem to be..

We must learn
*To love whatever we do instead of doing whatever we love !!"*
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Detached attachment must for happiness in old age......................... A must read fwd msg...

*Attachment in Detachment----*
*Written by Sudha* *Murthy, wife of* *Narayan* *Murthy.....Worth reading......* 👌👌

"When my daughter, the older of my two, wed and left home, I felt a part of me gone.

With a daughter and a son, I know what both mean, differently.

When she was in her teens I felt as if she was my "physical extension" !

So when she left home to set up her own, I felt I lost a limb.

Next time she came to stay with us, I was astonished how her priorities had changed.

We too must've given the same shocks to our own parents !

When she said Amma,
she meant her mother-in-law, not me!

I felt she was always in a hurry to go back to her house and not stay with me for a few more days.

That was the first time, it dawned on me that I have to start practising detachment with attachment.

Two years after my daughter's marriage, my son left for higher studies to US.

Having experienced a child's separation once, I was better equipped emotionally.

I plunged head long into various classes held in the city starting from vedanta to healing to ikebana -
I just wanted to be away from home..since my husband was a 24/7 workaholic.

My son used to write how he was missing my home cooked food, how he was waiting to come back to live in India with us ...

After a few years, he did come back and we got him married.

He started living separately with his wife and we were also happy that they wanted to be independant from the beginning...

But now, it was all changed !

When in the U S, he missed my cooking, now if I called him to come over with his wife for a meal, it was always some excuse like "oh, amma, we have other plans for the day, please don't mistake us if we don't drop in today" !

I could see that his priorities had also changed completely..

We talk so many things and give so much advice to others, but when it comes to our own children, acceptance comes very late. Our next step is to just leave them undisturbed in every way.

It was at that time, that I made the following my 'new profile'.

In all my relationships, rather interactions, I give my best and do my best to live up to what I say.

My attachment with them is complete.

However, I remain detached in the sense that *I do not expect them to reciprocate my affection.*

Most importantly, I make a conscious effort , *not to interfere or pass judgements* on the lives they choose to lead.

My *concern for my near and dear ones will not fade with my detachment.*

If you let go of the ones you love, they will never go away –
this is the *beauty of attachment with detachment !*

I have learnt to love and let go.

This dictum has developed tolerance in me.

When *I let the people live the* *way they want to, I learn to accept* *them for what they are.*

Most importantly ,
I learn to tolerate the world around me and this tolerance brings in me a sense of peace and contentment.

Since both my children live in different places, I follow this very strictly, you know why !

Now *I have realised that we start growing* *mentally much more only after the children leave the house* and we have to tackle the emotional vacuum, that arises, along with age-related problems .

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[www.keralites.net] STOP HAIR FALL WITH CURRY LEAVES

Stop hair fall and greying with curry leaves( KADI PATTA)
Stop hair fall and greying with curry leaves
curry leaves
Having beautiful and flawless tresses is not a magic trick; it is a result of great care,curry leaves (kadi patta) to take care of your lovely hair.
Rejuvenates damaged hair follicles
Curry leaves contain essential nutrients that help to restore strength in your hair follicles. You can either consume them or apply them on your scalp. Hair follicles get clogged due to pollution and other artificial hair strengthening products, which might cause hair damage and hair loss. They aid your scalp's restoration process and its essential nutrients help your hair follicles to breathe.
Prevents premature hair greying
Premature hair greying is caused due to a number of reasons, such as genetic build-up, stress, alcohol and smoking, etc. Vitamin B in curry leaves helps to restore colour in your hair by nourishing and strengthening the roots. This also helps in the growth of new hair roots with healthier and stronger pigments. As a result, you get rich, black and radiant hair.
Stops hair loss and thinning
Bad food habits, pollution and improper combing techniques aid your hair loss problems. Curry leaves are a rich source of beta-carotene and proteins. Beta carotene prevents hair loss while proteins stop hair thinning. Curry leaves are also rich in anti-oxidants and amino acids. Amino acids prevent hair loss and strengthen hair follicles, while anti-oxidants moisturise your scalp. Anti-oxidants help in removing dead scalp follicles, which are the primary cause of dandruff.
Strengthens hair shaft
The part of the hair which rises above the scalp is known as hair shaft. Vitamin B6 or pyridoxine present in curry leaves act as the hormone regulators of hair loss. High in nutritional values, curry leaves strengthens your hair shaft and hair roots. They are quite good for your digestive system as well, hence, removing many hair problems from their root cause.
Ways of using curry leaves
Here are some ways in which you can use curry leaves to get those strong, black and lustrous locks:
Include some curry leaves in your daily diet to get rid of your various hair-related problems. You can consume finely shredded curry leaves with milk or buttermilk. You can also add curry leaf powder to your rice and dals.
You can use curry leaves by mixing it with some yoghurt. Make a fine paste and massage it on your hair. Leave this on your scalp for at least fifteen minutes, before you rinse it off.
You can also make an effective hair tonic by boiling some curry leaves in your hair oil and applying it on your scalp. Massage it well for at least 15-20 minutes. Follow this procedure twice a week to stimulate your hair growth.
Curry leaves provide a naturally available solution to your various hair-related woes. So, use some them to experience a healthy shine in your beautiful locks.

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[www.keralites.net] The Most Expensive Coin in the world

The Most Expensive Coin In The World

A Double Eagle is a gold coin of the United States with a denomination of $20. (Its gold content of 0.9675 troy oz was worth $20 at the then official price of $20.67/oz). The coins are made from a 90% gold (0.900 fine = 21.6 kt) and 10% copper alloy.
Peter Swanston of the London Mint Office holds a "Double Eagle" gold twenty dollar coin at Goldsmith's Hall on March 2, 2012 in London, England. Nearly half a million of these coins were originally minted in the midst of the Great Depression in the US. Only 13 are known today after the rest were melted down before they ever left the US Mint, sacrificed as part of a strategy to stabalise the American economy. In 2002 a Double Eagle sold at auction for $7.6 million