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Monday, 17 November 2014

[www.keralites.net] 7 Steps to Great Relationships

1. Respect People
Always talk to people with respect; speaking to them like you want to be spoken to. Be kind in your words and actions. Think before you speak, because once the words leave your mouth, they can't ever be taken back. Your words may be forgiven, but they will never be forgotten. When you speak harshly to someone, you put a small crack in that relationship. Too many small cracks and the relationship will crumble.

2. Be Loyal and Trustworthy
Be the kind of person that can always be counted on to do the right thing. Never do anything to betray that trust. Always be honest, and always temper your honesty with kindness. Let them know that they can always lean on you, and even their deepest secrets are safe. If you don't have trust in a relationship, you don't have anything to build on.
"A friend is one who walks in when others walk out" ~~ Walter Winchell

3. Put Others First – Be a Friend
I know it's not easy, but you need to put the needs of others first. By that very act you show how much you care, and how important that relationship is to you. When you enter a relationship with a heart that puts others first, you are blessed by the fruits that are grown from such an act. By showing a genuine interest in others, you show yourself a friend, and gain loyal, lifelong friends to yourself.
As Dale Carnegie said, "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
"The only reward of virtue is virtue; the only way to have a friend is to be one." ~~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

4. Don't Try and Be Someone You're not
Always strive to be your best self, but never try and be someone you're not. Relationships built upon lies and distortions will never stand. Real friends are honest and upfront with each other. If you want to have a real friend, then be a real friend. Part of being a real friend is being yourself. If you want to impress someone, impress them with your kindness and friendship.

5. Don't Take People For Granted
I think this act probably causes more hurt, resentment, or weakening of friendships than any other. We go from enjoying someone's company, really appreciating all the things they do for us, and thinking about how great they are for the things they do. Then, let a little time go by, and we stop acknowledging the good things about them. We come to expect certain things that we considered special at one time. Don't do it, it's a relationship breaker. No one wants to be taken for granted.

6. Be Forgiving
What if the one being taken for granted is you? It hurts to feel like you're not appreciated. If we aren't vigilant in caring for our relationships, these things can easily happen. That's why it is important for us to look at others like Christ looks at us, with compassion and forgiveness.
Be sure to talk to the person taking you for granted. Don't let it build inside until the relationship is destroyed and irreparable. If they're a true friend they should apologize and be willing to change that.
Another trick to great relationships is good communications, and not holding grudges. Be forgiving as Christ is forgiving.

7. Be Positive and Encouraging
I love being around people who are positive and encouraging. It brings out the best in me and causes me to want to be positive and encourage to others. Can you think of a better emotional boost than to help put a smile on someone's face?

Dwelling on and being discouraged over problems will do nothing to make them better. We need to acknowledge the problem, tell that problem it's not going to define us, and then get to working finding a solution.

When someone you care about is down and hurting, you getting depressed with them will do nothing to help. What you need to do is show them compassion, be empathetic, and let them know you're there for them.
Then you need to lift them up. Help them to see some of the wonderful things about themselves and their life. Sometimes people just need to be reminded that they're special, and we believe in them even when they quit believing in themselves.

Junaid Tahir
www.DailyTenMinutes.com

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[www.keralites.net] 13 Things Not To Share Or Discuss With Your Colleagues

An interesting article. Not Everything is to be followed strictl though. Its upto the reader to decide what is better for him/her. The article is just to draw your attention on sensitive matters.

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"It's a social environment as well as a work environment. However, you must
remember while you can be friendly and develop a good rapport, business is
business and friendship is friendship."

Most workers don't realize that what they say has as much impact on their
professional images as what they wear, Lopeke says. People who say too much,
about themselves or others, can be seen as incompetent, unproductive and
unworthy of professional development.
To avoid your next case of verbal diarrhea, here are 13 things to never
share or discuss with your co-workers.

*1. Salary information*What you earn is between you and Human Resources, Solovic says. Disclosure
indicates you aren't capable of keeping a confidence.

*2. Medical history*"Nobody really cares about your aches and pains, your latest operation, your
infertility woes or the contents of your medicine cabinet," Lopeke says. To
your employer, your constant medical issues make you seem like an expensive,
high-risk employee.

*3. Gossip*Whomever you're gossiping with will undoubtedly tell others what you said,
Solovic says. Plus, if a co-worker is gossiping with you, most likely he or
she will gossip about you.

*4. Work complaints*Constant complaints about your workload, stress levels or the company will
quickly make you the kind of person who never gets invited to lunch, Solovic
warns. If you don't agree with company policies and procedures, address it
through official channels or move on.

*5. Cost of purchases*The spirit of keeping up with the Joneses is alive and well in the
workplace, Lopeke says, but you don't want others speculating on the
lifestyle you're living –or if you're living beyond your salary bracket.

*6. Intimate details*Don't share intimate (personal/private) details about your personal life. Co-workers can and
will use the information against you, Solovic says.

*7. Politics or religion*"People have strong, passionate views on both topics," Solovic says. You may
alienate a co-worker or be viewed negatively in a way that could impact your
career. If you and your co-workers belong to same religion then it is always nice

to have fruitful discussions. In case you have different regligion, speak for the positive

side of religion only. Never say lose sentences which may harm the image.

*8. Lifestyle changes*Breakups, divorces and baby-making plans should be shared only if there is a
need to know, Lopeke says. Otherwise, others will speak for your
capabilities, desires and limitations on availability, whether there is any
truth to their assumptions or not.

*9. Blogs or social networking profile*What you say in a social networking community or in your personal blog may
be even more damaging than what you say in person, Solovic warns. "Comments
online can be seen by multiple eyes. An outburst of anger when you are
having a bad day … can blow up in your face."

*10. Negative views of colleagues*If you don't agree with a co-worker's lifestyle, wardrobe or professional
abilities, confront that person privately or keep it to yourself, Lopeke
says. The workplace is not the venue for controversy.

*11. Hangovers and wild weekends*It's perfectly fine to have fun during the weekend, but don't talk about
your wild adventures on Monday, Solovic advises. That information can make
you look unprofessional and unreliable.

*12. Personal problems and relationships – in and out of the office*"Failed marriages and volatile romances spell instability to an employer,"
Lopeke says. Office romances lead to gossip and broken hearts, so it's best
to steer clear. "The safest way to play is to follow the rule, 'Never get
your honey where you get your money.'"

*13. Off-color or racially charged comments*You can assume your co-worker wouldn't be offended or would think something
is funny, but you might be wrong, Solovic says. Never take that risk.
Furthermore, even if you know for certain your colleague wouldn't mind your
comment, don't talk about it at work. Others can easily overhear.

Junaid Tahir
www.DailyTenMinutes.com