Monday 8 July 2013

[www.keralites.net] Woman saves husband from leopard with a kick.

 
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[www.keralites.net] How To Win an argument

 

It can be difficult for people to get their point across without hurting one another in the process. Here are some tips for effectively resolving a problem by stating your views, while being collected and reasonable. Also included are tips on winning an argument.




Stay calm Keep a steady low tone. The energy you give off is usually picked up on by the other person; if you are
calm they sense you mean no harm and relax more. Even if you get emotional, try to keep your dignity and don't lash out unexpectedly. Also consider your tone of voice; try to keep a steady, low tone and volume, not fluctuating to much in speed and sound. Try to sound as relaxed as possible and avoid high-pitched sounds. Also consider your body language: have a good firm posture that makes your feel powerful but not agressive.

Don't insult the other person. Avoid to, in any way, say something that might be taken as an insult. When people are angry they are much more sensitive and will take even the smallest comment as an insult.

Express that you are willing to listen to the other person and respect them. Even though you might not agree with what the other person is saying you need to remember that they might feel just as strongly about their views as you do about yours.

Be reasonable. The outcome of the argument might not be exactly what you wanted, but never expect to get everything you want. Don't let it last too long, the argument degrades if it's held out. Allow each person to speak and make their point.

Set healthy boundaries. If the person with whom you are arguing is angry, obnoxious or verbally abusive, should you really be interacting with them? It may be better to walk away.

If the argument is with a clerk, salesperson, etc. ask to speak with their supervisor. If a supervisor isn't immediately available, get a phone number.

Think about the possible arguments for and against your side, and the opposite side. If there is any major weakness in your argument, you must fill it before coming to a confrontation with the opposition, or risk losing the argument.

Identify any major pitfalls your opponent can step into. A gentle nudge here and there to get them to make some sort of fallacious statement that allows you to close the bear trap is psychologically damaging and can win an argument on the spot. Also try to take each argument to its logical conclusion.


Always take full advantage of any illogicality or fallacy in your opponent's argument. Return any illogical points with as many relevant logical facts as possible, to completely quash their point. If this is not possible, take their point and use it in your favor logically.


It's always possible to lose an argument, especially if your argument has major weaknesses. Accept it if that the case. However, arguments do sometimes come to standoffs, where no side is stronger than the other and nobody wins or loses. when this happens, learn to leave the argument as nothing can be gained by continuing to confront your opponent. When this happens, don't lose control or get desperate.
 
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[www.keralites.net] Ask Yourself "Why?"

 


By Junaid Tahir

A Colleague of mine commutes from her home to office daily through a bus service which is shared by several other professional of multiple offices in vicinity. The bus drops her to the office one hour earlier than her official timings. In the evening, it picks her up from office around 50 minutes after she packs up her work so overall two additional hours on daily basis are wasted causing additional tiredness. Also she has to wake up early morning in order to catch the bus which is earlier than her required schedule so she is sacrificing her sleep too.

 

 

"Why don't you use metro (train) service as it is luxurious, punctual, cheap and convenient"

" I have never used Metro in my life"

" but metro is cheap compared to monthly 500 dirhams you are paying for the bus"

"No I don't use taxis and metro as this is my life rule"

"Change the rule and start using it; a lot of professionals including senior executives are using metro"

"No, I never used Metro"

"Your life will be more easy, what's the point in not using it"

" No, I blah, blah, blah... I won't use it"

"Come on, try this tomorrow for one day only. I won't ask you after that"

"Ok, if you insist, I will"

 

After some days…

"Mr Junaid, that was a wonderful idea you gave us, I am very thankful to you as it saved my time, efforts and money"

"You are welcome J"

 

 

 

 

Flash:

Do you have such kind of baseless paradigms and principles in your life? Do you have a stubborn approach when it comes changing your habits? Are you afraid of trying new things? Do you like the status quo? If yes, unfortunately you don't deserve a better life style then! However, If you think otherwise, below is what i recommend:

 

Whatever you do in life, ask yourself on why are you doing this? What benefit I am getting out of it? What alternates can I consider in order to improve what I do? Who can I seek support from? Is there another best way to do this? Should I completely stop doing this altogether? Do you apply 5 Whys Formula for your routine tasks/projects?


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[www.keralites.net] പ്രതിഫലം ഏഴു കോടി

 

സായിബാബയാകാന്‍ ദിലീപിന്റെ പ്രതിഫലം ഏഴു കോടി

കൊച്ചി: മലയാളത്തിലെ എക്കാലത്തെയും വലിയ സൂപ്പര്‍സ്റ്റാറുകളായ മമ്മൂട്ടിയെയും മോഹന്‍ലാലിനെയും പ്രതിഫലക്കാര്യത്തില്‍ കടത്തിവെട്ടിയിരിക്കുകയാണ് ദിലീപ്. തെലുങ്കില്‍ ഇറങ്ങുന്ന സായിബാബ എന്ന ബിഗ് ബജറ്റ് ചിത്രത്തിനുവേണ്ടി 7 കോടി രൂപയ്ക്കാണ് ദിലീപ് കരാര്‍ ഒപ്പിട്ടിരിക്കുന്നത് എന്നാണ് റിപ്പോര്‍ട്ട്.

ആദ്യമായാണ് ഒരു മലയാളി താരത്തിന് ഇത്രയും വലിയ തുക പ്രതിഫലമായി ലഭിക്കുന്നത്. സായിബാബയുടെ 20 മുതല്‍ 85 വയസ്സ് വരെയുള്ള ജീവിതമായിരിക്കും ദിലീപ് അഭിനയിക്കുക.

കൊടി രാമാകൃഷ്ണന്‍ സംവിധാനം ചെയ്യുന്ന ചിത്രം പിന്നീട് വിവിധ ഭാഷകളിലേക്ക് ഡബ്ബ് ചെയ്ത് റിലീസ് ചെയ്യും. ഇന്ത്യയിലെ വിവിധ സ്ഥലങ്ങളില്‍ വെച്ചായിരിക്കും ഷൂട്ടിംഗ് നടക്കുക. ഷൂട്ടിംഗ് മൂന്നു മാസത്തോളം നീളുമെന്നാണ് സൂചന. സായിബാബയുടെ അമ്മയായി ജയപ്രദയും ഈ ചിത്രത്തില്‍ അഭിനയിക്കുന്നുണ്ട്.


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