Wednesday 28 October 2015

[www.keralites.net] 12 Reasons Why The First Year Of Your Marriage Is Most Important For Your Relationship

 

12 Reasons Why The First Year Of Your Marriage Is Most Important For Your Relationship 

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Marriage is one of the most beautiful, exciting, romantic and adventurous phases of your life. It means you will be starting a new phase of your life, sharing your home, your space and your life with someone. It also brings the joy of beginning a new family. All the excitement, anticipation and nervousness are what make it worthwhile

When you tie the knot and start a life together, irrespective of the fact whether yours is a love or an arranged marriage, the first year of your marriage is the most decisive one as it is the time you discover, you learn, you implement and you follow.

Confused? Well don't be, read on and enjoy as you unfold the importance of this crucial year of your life. 

1. You are getting to know each other

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You may have known each other for a long time, but there are many things that you get to know about a person only when you share your life with them. Your partner's likes, dislikes, habits - good as well as bad, the way they eat, sleep and many other things make you aware of your partner completely. 

2. You learn to share "everything"

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Not only your home, but things like your space, your cupboards, your towels, your car, your favourite chocolates that you have stacked in the fridge, which may seem like small things but mean a lot to you! 

3. You fight, but you also learn how to act as a unit when a dreadful situation arises

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If you are a married couple who does not fight, then there is seriously something wrong with you! A healthy marriage has healthy fights and that is what brings you closer too. And along the way, you realise that you may fight your hearts out, but when faced with a challenging situation, you never leave your partner alone. Rather, you two become a team and look for fruitful solutions to solve the problem before you. 

4. You learn what makes your partner happy and what makes them sad

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This phase of your marriage is where you spend the maximum time together (as it is also called the "extended honeymoon phase"). Hence, not only the likes and dislikes, but it also makes you well aware of your partner's tastes, both good and bad. 

5. You get to know each other's strong and weak points

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When you are dating, your partner might show you his/her strong points, but will always feel conscious and shy of making you familiar with the weak ones. But, once you are married and your partner is convinced that you would not be judged, you get to see both the strong and not-so-strong qualities of your spouse, and learn how to deal with them too. 

6. You realise how both of you deal with a crisis when one arises

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You may be the strong one when a difficult situation arises and would want to fight it in the eye. Your spouse, on the other hand, might be just the opposite and may prefer to either ignore it or run away from it. When you know how both of you deal with specific situations and are aware of each other's crisis management techniques, you are better equipped to deal with them when the next one arises. 

7. You become aware of each other's fighting pattern

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Yes, that is true! The first year of your marriage is enough time for you to understand the pattern or the triggers for your partner to get angry and start fights. So, you either learn to change your habits or try to change your spouse's unjust behaviour. You also become more aware of not letting fights caused by silly triggers to occur in the future. 

8. You learn to choose your words before speaking

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Because once you say things that you did not intend to, but did in a sudden burst of anger, you see the consequences and the distance that it creates between the two of you. Then you wish, you had not used such hurtful words. So, you learn to choose your words wisely. 

9. This year is the foundation, the stepping stone to a lifetime of happiness and commitment

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It has a million happy moments, many romantic instances, some sorrows, a lot of fights, maybe a few doctor visits, a few good family get-togethers, some bitter experiences with loved ones, and many more of such ups and downs. But, all these together, lay the foundation to your 'happily ever after'! 

10. You realise the meaning of starting your own family

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Until now, family comprised of you, your parents, your siblings and your relatives. Now, you learn the new definition of family where it is you, your husband, your in-laws, a child in the future, and how to keep everyone happy and together! 

11. You finally get a best friend for life

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You know, your 3 am companion, your partner in crime, your best buddy who also luckily happens to be your spouse? And, the reason you enjoy the company of your best friend the most in the first year is because that is the most fun-filled and stress-free time. 

12. You realise how lucky you are to have each other and that you have made the right choice

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Once you start living together, making your home the way you want it to be, discovering new facts about each other, learning new things from each other and realising how content and happy you feel every day, makes you feel blessed to have got married to this wonderful person. You feel certain that you will have a beautiful future as this year taught you a lot about each other, and that is all you need to start your journey.


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[www.keralites.net] This Story Of A Young Indian Bride Calling Off Her Marriage With A Drunk Groom Is Truly Inspiring

 

This Story Of A Young Indian Bride Calling Off Her Marriage With A Drunk Groom Is Truly Inspiring

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A cancelled marriage is nothing new when you hear of the groom doing it. But, when it is from the bride, it surely asks for your attention.

Yes, this time it is a bride, Priya, from Chennai, who does the 'dumping'. Let us have a look at her broken wedding tale, which happened in the town of Bodinayakanur, south-west of Chennai.

Priya (20), who was supposed to walk the aisle on October 18, 2015, actually walked out of the wedding when the groom reached the venue in an inebriated state. When it was time to take those seven vows; the groom, Chellapandi was not found in his normal self, so much so, that he started assaulting Priya and her relatives. The melodrama and tantrums were still tolerated by Priya until he started beating her with the sticks of flowers. This bizarre turn of the events left her bewildered and shocked.

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It was then that she took a decision of a lifetime. She threw the first sign of rejecting Chellapandi by giving him back the newly-tied mangalsutra. She took another bold step and reached the police station to file a case against his misbehaviour at the ceremony. Inspector Jayarani, the Station Officer of the All Women Police Station in Bodinayakanur, was all praises for Priya's exemplary boldness in refusing to accept a drunkard as her life partner. The brave action from the girl helped the department to resolve the entire issue. Priya, who is now a role model for girls in her community, has been flooded with marriage proposals.

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It is great to see a girl from rural India stand up for herself. Priya, who is from a poor family, and could only study till eighth standard not only saved her own life from being ruined, but also brought pride and glory to the women community. Her story is an example for girls to play an active role in highlighting such incidents. We, at BollywoodShaadis, wholeheartedly support this bride's decision, who took such a courageous decision for her life.


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[www.keralites.net] Spending Time in Nature In the Open Air

 

Spending Time in Nature
In the Open Air

Because we instinctively know that nature is good for us on many levels, it's not unusual to feel powerfully drawn to it.

In this modern age, we spend so much time indoors, focused on the busyness of our lives and disconnected from the earth. But much of what we truly need can only be found under the naked sky, alongside tall trees, on open plains, or in the sound of running water. Spending time in nature allows us to commune with other living beings and to find comfort in the nurturing embrace of Mother Earth. You can't help but experience a different sense of self while walking in a wood or traversing a mountainside. Being in nature connects us to the earth, grounding us as we walk, unhindered by concrete, upon her. Surrounded by other living beings, both bigger and smaller than we are, we remember that human beings are simply one form of life in this vast universe. 

Because we instinctively know that nature is good for us on many levels, it's not unusual to feel powerfully drawn to it. Even if you live in a city or find it difficult to travel to a forest or the countryside, there are a myriad ways to reconnect with nature. When you step out of your door each morning, pause for a minute and close your eyes long enough to let your senses absorb your surroundings. Listen and breathe deeply, until you hear the wind rustling through branches, smell rain on damp grass, and see the reflection of leaves brushing up against windowpanes. If you have time, crouch down and closely examine any nearby grass and soil. The sights, sounds, smells, and sensations we experience that are part of nature can remind us of all the gifts Mother Earth grants us each day. 

Spending time connecting with nature nourishes the soul, reminds you that you are never truly alone, and renews you by attuning you to the earth's natural rhythms. Taking a walk under the stars or feeling the wind on your face may be all it takes for you to reconnect with nature. Remember, you are as much a part of nature as are the leaves on a tree or water bubbling in a brook.


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