Tuesday 18 November 2014

[www.keralites.net] Six Tips for Anger Management

 


1-    Remember the fact the words spoken once cannot be recalled. When in rage, the tongue works faster than mind so there is a chance that you will have to regret what you have spoken. Your reactive approach may harm other person even if you were right at first. You might be forgiven but they will not forget what you said in anger as it is human psychology to remember what was said during the hard talks. So speak carefully. Your tongue sometimes act as a sword which can break the heart. Keep in mind that broken hearts are hard to cure!


2-   Leave the place of brawl and go to a peaceful location. Then carefully audit yourself if there was a genuine reason for being angry? You might be wrong. In fact every can be wrong at any time. You are not an angel; you are human. Humans make mistake. These mistakes are valuable as long as you learn from them. So do the self-audit first and then judge others, you will easily conclude the root cause of the situation. Sometimes you need analytical skills to judge yourself.  


3-   Sometimes you are angry for a specific event happening or conversation and sometimes you are angry persistently because the same situation is happening repeatedly. This cyclic happening is dangerous as it is draining your brain continuously and adding negative impact on your psychology. Get to the root of this issue and try to fix. If it is related to breach of trust by someone, read my article on developing trust here  and strive for the empowerment of your relations. Article written by Junaid Tahir.


4-   Avoid being Explosive to the situations. You might jeopardize the situation and your relationships. Repeated acts of reactions will impact your overall personality and eventually your character.  Article written by Junaid Tahir.


5-   Your frequent Mood swings indicate that you are an unpredictable personality. If you are a moody person and want to overcome this issue, please read my article here 


6-   Develop the habit of 'letting things go'. Ignoring unnecessary comments and negative criticism from others gives your brain a great independence to focus on things which are more important.

 

 

 
Finally, I would advice that patience is the real key. Patience with family is love, patience with situations is success,  patience with others is respect and patience with God is Faith.

 
How do you manage your anger?

 

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[www.keralites.net] 7 Points to Consider for Management

 



 

 
1. Stay calm.
Never react in anger or blow your stack. If you're so POd that you can't trust yourself to be calm, then go away and come back when you can. The workplace is no place for that kind of behavior, period. 

2. Attack the problem, not the person.
When you criticize or attack someone personally, you risk burning a bridge. Focus on the real issues at hand. You know, what the company actually pays you to do.

3. Be open and honest.

The second you grit your teeth, cross your arms, and close your mind, you give in to stubborn childish behavior. But if you remain open and keep your wits about you, you'll manage to do the right thing in a tough situation.

4. Don't lose perspective.
Try to remember that you're being paid to do a job, not to fight a war. The workplace is about business. You know, customers, products, that sort of thing. It's not about you … or him. 

5. Try to be empathetic.
Put yourself in other shoes and try to understand her perspective. If you can't or you're not sure what it is, then ask; you're assumptions may be wrong. If she does the same, next thing you know, you have detente.


6. Take the high road.
That doesn't mean be quiet when something needs to be said. It means say it at a time and place and in a manner that's reasonable and respectful of all present. If you kick yourself afterwards, then you probably didn't do it right.  

7. Have faith in yourself.
The workplace is no place for yes-men. You were hired for a reason, and it's not to blindly march along with the pack. If that's what management wants, you work for a crappy company. 

 

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[www.keralites.net] The Magical Beauty Of Fairy Flowers [29 Attachments]

 

There is an ancient, delicate flower that blooms every year as the earth warms and the leaves begin to form a canopy over the old woodlands of Europe. When it comes out, millions of violet and blue flowers carpet the forest floors as far as the eye can see, and their strong, sweet scent wafers across the air, turning the forest into something a bit more magical and mysterious.These bluebells have an almost enchanting quality to them, which earned them the name 'Fairy Flowers'. We hope that you too will one day find the time to stroll among these beautiful delicate flowers, but until then, enjoy these heavenly photos of their beauty.
 

 
 
This magical carpet of bluebells makes for a dreamy landscape and may be the reason these flowers have earned the nickname "Fairy Flowers". England boasts the largest number of bluebell flowers in the world, and Micheldever Wood often has this amazing blue and purple display.
 
 
Ashridge forest, in England. These are protected flowers by law, but even before it was instituted in the law, there were stories of dark fates awaiting those who pick these 'fairy flowers'. Stories tell of a pixie that would lead the picker away, never to be seen again.
 
 
A bluebell trail in Tourneppe, Belgium.
 

 
A tragic tale by Paul McCartney of the Beatles, is that he whispered these last words to his wife Linda, before she died. "You're up on your beautiful Appaloosa stallion. It's a fine spring day, we're riding through the woods. The bluebells are all out, and the sky is clear blue.
"McCartney later said that he had hardly got to the end of the sentence before his beloved closed her eyes and gently slipped away...
 
 
Badbury Clump near Faringdon, Oxfordshire.
 
 
There are many different kinds of bluebell flowers, with as many names. Some of those are: Common bluebell, British bluebell, Bell Bottle, Fairy flower and wood bell.
 

 
Every May, for a few weeks, many of the woodlands in Great Britain are covered with English bluebells.
 
 
An enchanted spring in the Belgium forest.
 
 
Dark trees amid countless bluebells.
 

 
Ashridge forest, with several acres of bluebells creating a rich carpet on the forest floor.
 
 
Many have tried to bottle the sweet smell of these delicate flowers, to sell as women's perfume.
 
 
The three best known kinds of bluebells are the Spanish, the English and the Virginia bluebells. Most Spanish bluebells prefer gardens, while English bluebells prosper in the forests. The Spanish bluebell is slightly taller than the English variety.
 

 
The British and Spanish bluebells are native to Europe and Great Britain. In the photo above you can see Spanish Bluebells.
 
 
Matthew Oates, naturalist for the national trust, said: "The true beauty of our bluebells - the color, the scent, the view - makes them an essential and special element to our springtime experience."
 
 
A misty dawn is one of the best times to come and see the bluebells, the atmosphere is dream-like, the forest quiet and beautiful.
 

 
Even dogs are insanely happy to run among the sweet smelling flowers.
 
 
And not just dogs. Here is Siberian Tiger Vladimir enjoying a bluebell carpet at Yorkshire Wildlife Park.
 
 
The Muntjac, also known as the 'Barking Deer', are inquisitive creatures and love the bluebells.
 

 
 
The highlands of Scotland are a fertile ground to plant woodland bluebells. They usually only flourish where a wood used to exist.
 
 
Springtime at Waterton National Park, Canada.
 
 
"Love is like a beautiful flower which I may not touch, but whose fragrance makes the garden a place of delight just the same."Helen Keller 
 

 
 
A beautiful path to walk through on a lazy Sunday afternoon in Belgium.
 
 
In Scotland bluebells are also known as 'harebells'. The name has a story to behind it. Apparently it was named for the hares that loved to visit the fields. Some claimed that witches would turn themselves into hares to hide among the flowers, and cast spells on those who dared harm the flowers.
 
 
Sunlight bursting through the trees and lighting the bluebells in stripes of dark blue and bright purple. Bluebells are often associated with gratitude and everlasting love.
 

 
 
Fairyland bluebells take the mind away on waves of imagination, and as Albert Einstein famously said: "Imagination is more important than knowledge."
 
 
Gorgeous bluebells drinking the last rays of sun at dusk.
  "All my life I have tried to pluck a thistle and plant a flower wherever the flower would grow in thought and mind."Abraham Lincoln 
 
 
Bluebells in the woods of Stamford Hill in Cornwall. Mountain bluebells can be found in the United states and were used as medicine by the Indians of the Cheyenne tribe to relieve itching caused by smallpox and measles. They also used it to treat women after childbirth to increase milk flow.
 

 
The not-so-ugly duckling.
 
 
"Love is the answer, and you know that for sure; Love is a flower, you've got to let it grow."

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