Saturday 9 January 2016

[www.keralites.net] 17 Mistakes We Make With Our Body Language Every Day

 

17 Body Language Mistakes We All Make

In several famous studies by Dr. Albert Mehrabian, it was found that 7% of communication is verbal, 38% is vocal (sounds) and 55% is NON-VERBAL. 

 

That means that most of the signals we send to those we talk to involve no words, no sound, just our body language. Studies show that most of us commit these little errors every day without being aware of them. So if you want to better protect your thoughts and avoid offense, check out these 17 common mistakes we all make with our daily body language. 

 

1. Smiling only with our mouths

I love smiling, and it's great to see one, no doubt. But when the smile isn't naturally occurring, when you only smile with your mouth but don't let the rest of the face participate - you create a silly impression at best and appear phony at worst. If you feel the need to smile, remember to smile with your entire face and truly mean it. 

 

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2. Looking up or around you

When your eyes start to wander in the middle of a conversation, especially going up, this sends the message that you are not listening, not interested or not focused. When people are talking to you, look right at them.

 

 

3. Fiddling with objects around you.

When we're tense we tend to fiddle with stuff in our hands - roll, tear or play with an object (this includes personal grooming or removing cat hair from your shirt). You may be surprised to hear this, but body language experts agree that this doesn't show nerves, it looks you are not agreeing with what the other person is saying.

 

 

4. Crossing your arms and legs

Crossing your arms and/or legs is a comfortable position, and when we're tense we often feel a strong urge to do so because it makes us feel more protected. However, the other side of this coin is that the person in front of you feels as if you are closing yourselves off to the conversation and to them emotionally. 

 

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5. Fidgeting

Restless legs, changing postures every minute, drumming with your fingers or moving your head from side to side - may just indicate you find your chair uncomfortable or perhaps you need to go to the bathroom. But for the person in front of you, the feeling is of nervous ticks that may distract them from what they were saying, or make them feel you aren't really listening.

 

 

6. Not looking the other person in the eyes

This is one of the staples of inter-personal communication: Avoiding eye contact, say body language experts, is the first step to bad communication. If you meet someone and they almost never look you in the eyes, you probably felt quite uncomfortable during the conversation. That said, eyeballing someone isn't good either, as it can seem aggressive. Keep eye contact for a few seconds at a time, then look away, and return to eye contact when the other person is talking to you. 

 

 

7. Keeping our hands on our hips

Many of us place our hands on the hips, with elbows facing outwards, so in an subconscious way we feel the need to 'enlarge' ourselves and leave more room for our personal space. This is a defensive position but one that can be interpeted as threatening to the other person. So unless you are going for intimidation, leave the hands relaxed and placed on the thighs or the sides of the body.

 

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8. Keeping our head low

Lowering your head sends a message of shyness, surrender and even shame. Without even noticing, it places you on a lower status than the person you are talking to. So remember to lift your head and look at the other person directly.

 

9. Nodding too much

When we listen to another and want to show him we agree without interrupting him, we nod. So far so good. The problem is that too much nodding can show you as submissive, as if you are trying to please the other person too much. If you feel you're nodding too much, try to catch yourselves doing it and deliberately switch to some verbal cues "yes" or "I agree".

 

10. Doodling on a piece of paper

Sometimes, during a meeting, you need to write some things down, and that's fine. But while you're not writing something important, don't doodle. Keep that for another time. Why? Because that lack of focus is transmitted to the other person, telling them they are wasting their time with you, and of course - it prevents eye contact.

 

 

11. Rolling our eyes

Sure, this gesture can be comical around friends and family, but we might be so used to it we do it in an official meeting, which can cause very bad results. Doing this amongst strangers shows not only that you do not agree with what they are saying, but may also convey a lack of respect. It summons the image of a sullen teenager who is just waiting to be left alone. In short - it is rude, and you'd be best avoiding it.

 

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12. 'Melting' into our chair

The antidote to a stressful meeting is not lounging or melting into your chair or sofa (lowered shoulders, putting your elbows on the table, leaning back with spread legs etc.) This kind of posture may transmit a lack of caring to the other side, and that you're not really interested in having a conversation at the moment. Sit straight but not rigid, and if you are standing - stand firm.

 

13. Playing with our hair

Playing with your hair is very common in flirtation, so its perfect for a romantic date. However, if we're talking about a business meeting or any other stressful event, keep your hands away from your hair. Playing with your hair may be interpeted as being nervous, rolling or even chewing the hair may be signs of a lack of maturity.

 

14. Pinching our nose while closing our eyes

This movement is what experts see as if you saying to the other person that you are not happy with them and have a negative view of their actions. If you have a headache or sinus pain, you may be doing it without noticing. But try to explain why you are doing it to avoid giving the wrong impression.

 

 

15. Touching our nose too often

If you feel an itch, by all means, scratch that nose. But often touching the nose may, subconsciously, send the message you are either lying or hiding something. There's even a medical explanation for it: When our blood pressure rises ( when we lie), our nose tissue and cells create histamine, which causes an itch. Your partner may not know this, but subconsciously they can feel the connection between nose touching and lying. 

 

 

16. Standing with our body pointing at the exit

This is true in any culture. If you want to show your conversation partner respect and interest, you must face them. If you are turning, even with only half your body, towards the door or any other exit in the room, the message is sent that you cannot wait to finish this conversation so you can leave and do other things. If you notice this, correct yourselves and face your partner once again.

 

 

17. Cross our hands behind our back

In movies and television shows, we see this kind of stance as connected to learned types or grizzled army men. In reality, standing with your hands behind your back transmits anger, disagreement with what is being said and even a hint of threat or violence. So please, leave this pose to the actors.

 

 


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[www.keralites.net] You cannot change the world

 

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by: Brian Tracy

You cannot change the world,
But you can present the world with one improved person -
Yourself.

You can go to work on yourself to make yourself
Into the kind of person you admire and respect.
You can become a role model and set a standard for others.
You can control and discipline yourself to resist acting
Or speaking in a negative way
Toward anyone for any reason.

You can insist upon always doing things the loving way,
Rather than the hurtful way.
By doing these things each day,
You can continue on your journey
Toward becoming an exceptional human being.


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[www.keralites.net] The Art of Planning Ahead

 
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[www.keralites.net] Neem Tree Oil: A Godsend for Your Hair and Skin

 

9 Ways Neem Tree Oil Repairs Your Skin and Hair
 

Fun & Info @ Keralites.netNeem tree oil is commonly harvested from the neem tree (sometimes called an Indian lilac or by its technical name Azadirachta indica), found growing in India and other tropical regions. It is dark colored and smells like a fusion between garlic and peanuts. This healing tree oil is an important part of Ayurveda, an ancient Indian medicine practice. As a natural ingredient, it is also anti-bacterial, analgesic, anti-inflammatory and anti-fungal. It can treat many skin and hair problems.
For your skin

Protects skin from aging

Since neem tree oil is rich in antioxidants applying it to your skin can protect it from environmental damage. The oil's abundance of carotenoids can prevent free radicals from harming your skin. Neem tree oil is also rich in fatty acids and vitamins, which can improve your skin's elasticity. This helps with smoothing fine lines and wrinkles.

Clears up spotty skin

Neem tree oil can reduce the redness and inflammation caused by acne and pimples.  Neem tree oil eradicates the bacteria and the concentrated fatty acids prevent acne scars from forming. Similarly applying a face mask made with neem tree oil can help get rid of any skin impurities and can help tighten your pores.

Relieves eczema

Eczema is largely a genetic disorder which causes skin abrasions, swelling and redness. Applying neem tree oil can help this disorder without having to take strong medication. The ample amounts of fatty acids and vitamin E in the oil penetrate the skin's outer layer. This provides moisture and thereby restores the protective barrier of the skin, while the antiseptic properties protect the skin from infection. There are compounds of nimbin and nimbidin in the oil, which reduce swelling and relieve the redness.

Fights fungi

Fun & Info @ Keralites.netFungal infections are more widespread than most people realize. Common ones include nail fungus, ringworm and athlete's foot and can pester one to no end. Because neem tree oil is a powerful antifungal agent applying it to these infected areas can help eliminate these skin conditions quickly and naturally.

Remedies dryness

Neem tree oil is a natural skin conditioner and can help with dryness and keeping your skin moisturized. The plentiful vitamins and minerals repair any prolonged skin dryness and it's a common ingredient in moisturizing products.

For your hair

Treats head lice

Using neem tree oil is a safe alternative to the more toxic anti-lice shampoos. Applying neem tree oil won't irritate or itch your scalp while effectively killing off nits and lice.  Leave neem tree oil on your head and hair overnight, and comb out the lice with a lice comb the next morning.

Promotes hair growth

Hair thinning and shedding can be caused by medication, pollution and stress. Neem tree oil has been found to be effective for people suffering from this type of hair loss. The minerals and vitamins in neem tree oil promote hair growth and can even improve the quality of your hair.

Treats split ends and frizzy hair

Fun & Info @ Keralites.netWhen your hair is weak and develops split ends it can cause hair growth to become stunted. The results are unmanageable and bushy hair. This solution also effectively helps you manage frizzy hair. Neem tree oil can make your hair more adaptable and provides a rich source of moisture, protection and works to repair damaged hair cuticles. It also makes your hair shine, and look smooth and hydrated. The best way to apply the oil is by adding a few drops to your regular shampoo. You can also apply a few drops directly to the scalp.

Treats dandruff

Using neem tree oil shampoo or a dandruff shampoo with neem tree oil can prevent and get rid of dandruff. The oil protects your scalp skin, preventing skin from shedding and maintain your scalp's PH level. The oil's rich deposits of vitamins can strengthen your hair follicles roots too.

 

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