'Marriages', they say,' are made in Heaven'. That is probably why; they are never down to earth. Just see, what an extravaganza we make out of a marriage: glittering jewellery, gorgeous silk sarees, flashing video lights, bouquets and buffets and what not. In spite of the entire circus, one is still not sure of the success or otherwise of a marriage. From that perspective, matrimony resembles the stock market gamble. If you are lucky, you will win a lottery; or else, you will be doomed for the rest of your life! This risk puts one in an awful dilemma - to wed or not to. Adding to one's confusion, some people offer this 'sincere' advice: 'FOR HEAVEN'S SAKE, DON'T MARRY!' One just cannot ignore this because it mostly comes from some married people. After all, they are experienced and they know better. Who is more at risk in matrimony, the boy or the girl? It is a debatable question. Going by what Benjamin Disraeli said, 'Every women should marry---and no man!' more than the fair sex, the male counterpart appears to be the worst-affected by matrimony. However, you may see this is a man's view point. Others put it in a different way: 'Getting married? By all means go ahead. If you get a good wife, you will enjoy a happy life. Otherwise, the world will have a good philosopher. But the man's world is very unfair to the fair sex in saying this. Anyway, if everyone had taken them seriously, it would have been the beginning of the end of human race. After all, nobody learns lessons form others' mistakes. And the writer is no exception! Having decided to take the matrimonial plunge, it was perfectly in order to look into the 'matchmakers' column of newspapers. Browsing through the cluster of ads, one is awestruck by their bewildering varieties. They offer every type of boy and girl under the Sun. And those tricky terms' 'broad-minded', 'accomplished', 'wheatish complexion',' domestically trained'(animal?), a profile which any boy or girl would start fantasising about the life-partner. One ad says 'mother not alive', probably the USP is to attract those poor people who are wary of the mother-in-law! Responding to such ads looks like shooting in the dark. You don't know whom they're aimed at. It reminds us of the practice in some societies of traditional India and China where the bride and groom are not allowed to see each other until they are brought together for the wedding ceremony. Oh'what a suspense! The world population statistics say that there are a less number of women than men in many societies. That makes hunting for a wife as the next project for a boy after hunting for a job. Who knows the world may come to a full circle. And as happened in the good old days, 'Swayamwarams' may become a reality in future, where a girl can choose from a number of eligible bachelors who will stand in queue to get hand-picked. The remaining 'rejected' ones from the marriage mela need not worry. They will have the freedom in the morning to get up from both the sides of their beds!
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