LOSE ONE LOVE CAN RENDER BIG LESSONS!
Rosana Braga
Each stage of life can be an unmissable lesson. Yes, the different demands of life, love and relationships can become precious learnings or horrendous punishments. Everything will depend on how each deals with their feelings and respond to invitations to grow and mature.
One of the biggest challenges for most people, is to experience the stage of loss of a great love without disassembling without succumbing and sinking in a sea of despair and rambling, completely losing track of yourself, of your plans and its value.
Sure disrupt a relationship when your entire body and even his soul still pulsate on the beloved is extremely painful. Of course losing someone-is symbolically or literally-is an experience that leaves us with absolutely no ground, as if the plot of a story is esvaísse and nothing else made sense.
Ie, we are not talking about not feeling, not crying, not hurt, does not suffer. Of course not! All that is intrinsically human and indispensable part of any development, any possibility of consciousness, awareness and healthy development.
The question therefore is: why is it even being essential to be in the "darkness" of itself temporarily without knowing where to go or what to do, without knowing what it is or what it will be yet so many people resist , refuse to accept, refuse to take this opportunity, as if it were a great injustice, one unspeakable tragedy and misguided?
Like spoiled children, they become aggressive, accusing the world and the other in their dissatisfaction and frustrations. Become mostly blind and deaf given the signs that life sends them wisely, day after day. And thus do not realize their part in the unfolding of events.
They do not realize that there is a portion of this story that has to do with their own choices with their own rights. And has a second portion that has to do with the choices of the other, with the rights of others. And there's another part that can indeed be uncontrollable, inexplicable and even irrational. On this, we can do nothing. Only accept. Is beyond the reach of our vision, our understanding.
So if you are throbbing with pain and despair for having asked a love or because the pace of the meeting is not exactly what you had imagined, give a credit to the time and rely a little more on sage adage that "what has to be, will be ". Some tips may help:
- Embrace it! When someone you love so much is writhing in pain, you probably embraces, caresses, cares. Do this with yourself at this point and until the pain decreases. You need to stay strong through the dark tunnel of learning.
- Stop blaming yourself! At a time of loss, guilt serves no purpose. Self-perception is the word, is the lesson. Acknowledge your mistakes not to repeat them. Apologize, but remember that the other has the right to say "yes" or "no" and it may have nothing to do with his awareness that he can do better next time.
- Allow yourself to live the fight Some people, when you're sad, going to party, drink too much, flees himself believing that denial is the best way out!. There is definitely. What is not digested and experienced will explode in some way, either as a disease, aggression or depression.
- Take one day at a time! Stop claiming relief before the process ends. Learning is a process that takes time. Growing requires a step by step what is happening as the "chips are falling." Be reasonable with yourself and try to be fine "just for today". If not, fine. Tomorrow is a new day and a new chance to be better.
- Make good plans for a triumphant new beginning! Redeem your pleasures left to do. Ask for help from your friends. Risk a new course, a new haircut, a new sport. Bet on again and redo. Be certain that it is forward looking and the best is always yet to come ...
Have a great day, migo (a)!
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