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ISLAMIC MANNERS-18 Weddings   7.1 WEDDINGS ARE PART OF THE PROPHET'S TRADITION If invited to a marriage ceremony or wedding celebration, you should accept the invitation unless it may include prohibited acts. Attending a wedding is part of the Sunnah, as Islam regards marriage as an act of worship and obedience to Allah. Islam endorses performing marriage contracts in the mosque. Muslim jurists stipulated that this is based on a Hadith reported by Al-Tirmidhi and Ibn Maja: Publicize the marriage, execute it at the mosques and celebrate it with drums.' Another Hadith reported by Imam Ahmad and Al-Hakim and others supports the first Hadith: Publicize Marriage.' It also supported by a third Hadith reported by Ahmad, Al-Tirmidhi, Al-Nasa'i and Ibn Maja: The difference between a legitimate (Halal) and an illegitimate (Haram) marriage is the presence of voices and drums.' There is no dispute among Muslim scholars that in a wedding celebration, the Prophet (PBUH) allowed women to use drums. The most valid opinion among many scholars is that men can also use drums in order to publicize the marriage thus making it known near and far. The noble Islamic purpose of such publicity is to distinguish between an evil and illicit relationship and a pure and desirable marriage. Attending a wedding is one of the rights of brotherhood among Muslims. It fulfills the requirement of publicity, reinforces the need to attest to the sanctity of the marriage, and it gives a chance to join your brethren as they complete the second half of Islam, and while you pray that they remain observant of the first half. Attending a wedding also honours the husband and wife by having their relatives and friends share in their happiness. It blesses them with guests that pray to Allah for their righteousness, success, affluence and prosperity. 7.2 THE MANNERS OF ATTENDING WEDDINGS If invited, attend the celebration as if you have answered an invitation to a blessed occasion, and a delightful and acclaimed celebration, as the Prophet proclaimed you should. Dress appropriately, for the Prophet's companions used to dress properly at weddings. When initiating or sharing in discussions, make sure your conversation fits the happy occasion and does not include depressing and distasteful subject matter that could spoil the occasion. Muslims should be wise and considerate. It is recommended that you congratulate the bride and bridegroom, by reciting the Hadith narrated by Abu Dawud and Al-Tirmidhi, and authenticated by Ibn Maja and Al-Hakim, whereby the Prophet (PBUH) said: May Allah bless your side and bless your counterpart and may Allah tie your union with virtue.' Do not use the commonly used phrase With comfort and children,' because this was the phrase used by the people of ignorance (Jahilia). The Prophet (PBUH) prohibited such a saying, and Allah, with His blessing, replaced it by the prayer of his Prophet (PBUH). Al-Bukhari reported that Ayisha (RA) said: When the Prophet (PBUH) married me, my mother led me into the house where women of Ansar were celebrating. They congratulated me with reward, blessing, and best of luck' wishes. Islam permits women to celebrate a wedding by singing tasteful songs, accompanied by a drum beat. Such poems and songs should not promote lust, lewd desire, or portray physical beauty. Instead, they should sing delightful and decent songs to express their happiness with the marriage. Al-Bukhari reported that Ayisha (RA) said: A bride was led to her Ansar husband. The Prophet (PBUH) said: O Ayisha, did you not have merriment? The Ansar love fun.' He was referring to the singing and beating of drums. Al-Hafiz ibn Hajar reported in his book Fath Al-Bari that Ayisha recalled that the Prophet (PBUH) asked Why did you not send with her [the bride] a singer girl to sing with a drum beat? I said, What?' He answered: We are visiting you, we are visiting you If you greet us, we'll greet you. For your gold, bright and red, brought the bride to your farm And it is your wheat, brown and tanned, that made your virgins' charm Songs sung at weddings must be similar and have wholesome and seemly meanings. Songs of lust, passion and immorality should be avoided. from the book ISLAMIC MANNERS By Shaykh Abdul-Fattaah Abu Ghuddah (RA)   Engr.Sulthan

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