VALIDATE YOUR OWN EMOTIONS
Many of the problems that come with poor social skills is the mistaken understanding that we look to others to validate our own emotions and worth. This is incorrect. You and you alone are responsible for the state of your own emotions, no matter what awful things someone might say to you. Be a mature adult (or kid) and take responsibility.
DON'T TRY TO THINK LOGICALLY ABOUT SOCIAL INTERACTIONS
People are not rational creatures, they are rationalizing creatures. Most awkward social interaction stems from one person attempting to logically interpret the actions or emotions of the other person, when logical simply doesn't apply. Stop trying to be logical, and much if not all of the frustration you feel will melt away.
AVOID CRITICIZING OTHERS
Socially awkward people often have a problem with learning their mental filter, and controlling their compulsion to say whatever crosses their mind, positive or negative. Learn to control your need to criticize others. Criticism is a bad verbal communication habit.
TALK LESS ABOUT YOURSELF AND MORE ABOUT OTHERS
Social interaction would be easy if everyone simply wanted to talk about the other person. Alas, it rarely works that way. Learn to be interested in other people, and find the best ways to get them interested in learning about you, without volunteering to do it for them.
FOCUS OUTWARDLY
Try to become more of an extrovert if you're introverted (even though biologically this is impossible), in all facets of your life, and shift your focus away from yourself and towards the needs of others.
STOP BLAMING OTHERS
Along the lines of the previous point, do not blame others for your own ability to communicate or interact socially. You alone are responsible for fostering good social skills in yourself.
AVOID NEGATIVITY
No one likes to be around negative people, and nothing inhibits social interaction or growth more quickly than your own negative attitude. Try to keep the condemnations and complaints to a minimum in any and all conversations.
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