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From The Heart of a Muslim - good one, worth reading!
 
From The Heart of a Muslim - good one, worth reading!
 

 
 I was born a Muslim and lived all my life as a follower of Islam.

After the barbaric terrorist attacks done by the hands of my fellow Muslims everywhere on this globe, and after the too many violent acts by Islamists in many parts of the world, I feel responsible as a Muslim and as a human being to speak out and tell the truth to protect the world and Muslims as well from a coming catastrophe and war of civilizations.

I have to admit that our current Islamic teaching creates violence and hatred toward non-Muslims.  We Muslims are the ones who need to change.  Until now we have accepted polygamy, the beating of women by men, and killing those who convert from Islam to other religions.

We have never had a clear and strong stand against the concept of slavery or wars, to spread our religion and to subjugate others to Islam and force them to pay a humiliating tax called jizia.  We ask others to respect our religion while all the time we curse non-Muslims loudly (in Arabic) in our Friday prayers in the mosques.

What message do we convey to our children when we call the Jews "descendants of the pigs and monkeys"?  [Yet,  both Arabs and Jews are descendants of Ibrahim (Abraham)!]   Is this a message of love and peace, or a message of hate?

I have been into [Christian] churches and [Jewish] synagogues where they were praying for Muslims.  While all the time, we curse them, and teach our generations to call them "infidels", and to hate them.

We immediately jump in a 'knee jerk reflex' to defend Prophet Mohammad when someone accuses him of being a pedophile while, at the same time, we are proud with the story in our Islamic books that he married a young girl seven years old [Aisha]when he was above 50 years old.

I am sad to say that many, if not most of us, rejoiced in happiness after September 11th and after many other terror attacks.

Muslims denounce these attacks to look good in front of the media, but we condone the Islamic terrorists and sympathise with their cause.  Until now our 'reputable' top religious authorities have never issued a fatwa or religious statement to proclaim Bin Laden as an apostate, while an author, like Rushdie, was declared an apostate who should be killed according to Islamic Shari'a law just for writing a book criticizing Islam.

Muslims demonstrated to get more religious rights as we did in France to stop the ban on the hijab (head scarf), while we did not demonstrate with such passion and in such numbers against the terrorist murders.  It is our absolute silence against the terrorists that gives the energy to these terrorists to continue doing their evil acts.

We Muslims need to stop blaming our problems on others or on the Israeli/Palestinian conflict.   As a matter of honesty, Israel is the only light of democracy, civilization, and human rights in the whole Middle East .

We kicked out the Jews with no compensation or mercy from most of the Arab countries to make them "Jews-free countries" while Israel accepted more than a million Arabs to live there, have their own nationality, and enjoy their rights as human beings. In Israel , women cannot be beaten legally by men, and any person can change his/her belief system with no fear of being killed by the Islamic law of 'apostasy,' while in our Islamic world people do not enjoy any of these rights.

I agree that the 'Palestinians' suffer, but they suffer because of their corrupt leaders and notbecause of Israel .

It is not common to see Arabs who live in Israel leaving to live in the Arab world.  On the other hand, we used to see thousands of Palestinians going to work with happiness in Israel , its 'enemy.'   If Israel treats Arabs badly as some people claim, surely we would have seen the opposite happening.

We Muslims need to admit our problems and face them.  Only then we can treat them and start a new era to live in harmony with human mankind. Our religious leaders have to show a clear and very strong stand against polygamy, pedophilia, slavery, killing those who convert from Islam to other religions, beating of women by men, and declaring wars on  non-Muslims to spread Islam.

Then, and only then, do we have the right to ask others to respect our religion. The time has come to stop our hypocrisy and say it openly: 'We Muslims have to change.'
 
  
 
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"I am a Muslim by faith,  a Christian by spirit,   a Jew by heart,  and above all  I am a human being."   ~  Dr. Tawfik Hamid.
Dr. Hamid is an Egyptian scholar and author of the article above.  The world needs more people like him---ones who have the courage to faceup to reality. 
 
 
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If only human beings can cut off the shackle of religion peace will manifest itself.
Bear in mind religion has done more damage and divided us instead of uniting us human beings as one entity.Religion has become an obstacle to human unity.Wake up to reality,use your wisdom and cut off the shackle of religion and be free.Remember earth belongs to no one except that we are only taking temporary residence here and one fine day we would have gone why are we at each others throat in the name of religion.Let your wisdom see unity instead of differences and share the one thing called caring and love. 

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[www.keralites.net] 21 Strategies to Improve Emotional Intelligence

 



 

What makes a big difference is our Emotional Intelligence, the concept that has been described by Daniel Goleman. Not only do qualities associated with high EQ (such as self-awareness, inner motivation, empathy and ability to recognize and manage our own feelings and those of others) account for about 90% of our professional effectiveness, they also enhance our intellectual performance – i.e. we work smarter, not harder!
Really great news is that, unlike IQ, which is set and almost unchangeable from childhood on, emotional intelligence can be developed and improved!
21 Strategies to Improve Emotional Intelligence
 

1. Learn to trust your intuition

Do you know how sometimes you "have a feeling" about something or someone? Well, do not rush to dismiss it, because it may help you to avoid a few costly mistakes.

For a long time intuition and rational thinking were considered two mutually exclusive concepts. Only now have scientists started to realize that our intuitive emotions serve as an efficient mechanism that improves our ability to make better, sounder decisions. So learn to trust your intuition and start relying on it more often!
 

2. Quickly un-wind your mind

When we are under stress, we quickly lose the ability to accurately "read" a situation, hear what someone else is saying, think rationally and communicate clearly. The first skill that can greatly improve our emotional intelligence is to quickly and efficiently manage stress when we are feeling overwhelmed.
 

3. Realize that you are not your emotions

A trap many people fall into is feeling that they "ought" to feel a certain way. Usually we are brought up to believe that it is wrong to express and even feel certain emotions, as if it somehow makes us a "bad person". But in reality it is not the feeling that matters, but how you choose to act on it.
 

4. Talk about your feelings

Letting our feelings show has always been associated with weakness. While we were learning to smile politely and keep our thoughts and feelings to ourselves, we should have been practicing to express those feelings. This is what people with high EQ do. They are not afraid to expose their feelings, vulnerabilities and thoughts. And guess what? No one perceives them as weak.


 

5. Practice "learned optimism"

Notice how you explain events to yourself, both good and bad. Do you take credit for your achievements or do you dismiss them as pure luck? Do you take responsibility for your missteps or does it seem more natural for you to shift the blame on something or someone else?
 

6. Start with your ego

Ego plays a huge role in how we perceive and react to different situations. You can not feel unappreciated, offended or hurt unless you let yourself feel that way. And the fact that you are feeling that way almost always means that your ego has been rubbed the wrong way. But you are not your ego. You are a spiritual human being and your natural state is happiness, not anger, resentment, envy.
 

7. Acknowledge your emotions

Another way to improve emotional intelligence lies in developing understanding that denying, ignoring or numbing our feelings will not make them go away. Acknowledging our emotions, both good and bad, allows us to get in touch with our own motivations and needs, and to communicate effectively with others.
 

8. Think about how you think

You may not always choose the situation or people you work with, but you CAN always choose the way you frame it in your mind.
 

9. Choose your words carefully

The words we use carry emotional baggage with them and evoke certain associations in your mind. One way of changing your thoughts and getting negative emotions under control is to choose positively-charged words like "solution", "help", "please", "appreciate", "understand", "together", "great", "Thank you". Words like this enhance people's desire to listen and cooperate, versus fight, insist and get negativity back.
 

10. Step into their shoes

Being able to see a situation or a point of view from another person's perspective is a skill that most of us develop at the age of 5. Too bad that when we are overcome by negative emotions we start acting like we are 4, by acknowledging only our thoughts, emotions and arguments. I know that it is hard, but next time you are in the middle of a heated argument, try to put yourself into the other person's shoes really understand where they are coming from. You might discover that they have a valid point!
 

11. Think Law of Attraction

If you believe that "What goes around comes around" think of what may come back to you every time you send negative emotions and thoughts into the Universe. The Universe does not care if "this moron has really upset you" or "this stupid idiot has cut in front of you almost causing a car incident". Other people's deeds are their karma. Take care of yours!
 

12. Breathe anger out

Anger is a powerful emotion, but it has equally powerful 'side-effects'. After it dies down we are left feeling exhausted, drained and often foolish. A great way to keep anger at bay is to put some distance between you and the object of your irritation. Take a few deep breaths, imagining your breath shooting the anger and tension away and cool air calming your mind and slowing your heart rate down. Do not tackle the problem that pushed you off your balance until you will feel completely calm and composed.
 

13. Listen

Mahatma Gandhi used to say, "Speak only if it improves upon the silence". I would add, speak only if it objectively improves the conversation. Otherwise, listen!
 

14. Give yourself some love

If you do something well – celebrate. If you fail – learn the lesson and improve. There is no sense in dragging yourself down for every little mistake. Judging and criticizing yourself will not make you a better person. Self-awareness, understanding and compassion will.
 

15. Give positive feedback to others

Train your mind to see actions that are worth complimenting on, rather than focusing on cherry-picking little things that can be criticized or improved. When you learn to compliment with ease and refrain from judging, your EQ will sky-rocket and your relationships will flourish. Guaranteed!
 

16. Choose your arguments carefully

Arguments take time and energy, especially if you want to resolve them in a positive way. Before getting yourself into one, consider what is worth arguing about and what is best left alone.
 

17. Forgive

People with high EQ have less emotional 'baggage', while people with low EQ tend to have more unresolved personal issues which often act as triggers for conflicts and emotional strain. The best way of dealing with these issues is to forgive those who have wronged you in the past. Not so much for their sake, but for your own.
 

18. Know your hot buttons

Pay attention to the times when you let other people push your buttons. What are they? What are the specific conditions where you are likely to let your guard down? Try to avoid putting yourself in these situations where you aren't able to choose a graceful response.
 

19. Look out for the sarcasm alert

Sarcasm is usually an indication that someone is being defensive. When you hear sarcasm or are the one using it, ask yourself why? What is the underlying emotion behind it? Why are you or the other person being defensive?
 

20. Pay attention to people's non-verbal communication cues

Often the key to successful relationships at work and harmony in your family lies in your ability to understand non-verbal cues that are communicated through gestures, body language of the eyes and slightest micro-expressions.
 

21. Practice empathy

You have the power not only to improve your emotional intelligence, but to become a good influence on others, improving their creativity and intellectual performance. Robert Rosenthal, a Harvard expert on empathy, has demonstrated that when people administering IQ tests treated their subjects warmly, the test scores were higher.
Here is a simple test that will help you to determine you current EQ

Junaid Tahir 
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[www.keralites.net] 5 Clear Reasons You Are Not a Great Boss !

 




 
These common blind spots could be preventing you from being the manager you need to be

You want to be a great boss. You need to be a great boss.
But unless you overcome these five barriers, according to Edwin Miller, CEO of the cloud-based strategy automation software company 9Lenses and author of Insight to Action: A Social Approach to Business Automation, you never will be:

1. You only stick to what you know.

It's natural: If you're a programmer at heart you'll spend most of your time on technical issues and product development and little on sales. If you're into numbers you'll spend tons of time with cash flow and little with operations.
When that happens, though, you only view your business through the lens of what you know--which means you'll tend to ignore other areas critical to success, and often over-manage your area of expertise. No matter how great your product, it still must be sold; no matter how much strategic sense an expansion into new territories makes, it still must be financed.
We all have a primary skill or interest; indulge yours, but when you find yourself having too much fun, that probably means other aspects of your business are left wanting.

2. You only act on what you observe.

Of course you don't see what you can't see. But you can make choices that ensure you don't see what you could see--like if you stick too closely to only what you know.
Stretch yourself. Peek into uncomfortable places. Focus on areas where you have less experience or less natural aptitude. Go on sales calls. Work in the warehouse for a few hours. Sit with your accountant and--gasp!--ask for a thorough analysis of your financial situation.
You'll see a lot more than you normally see... and then you'll be able to act on what you see.

3. You don't know what you don't know.

You also can't know what you don't know. But you can accept that you don't know everything.
All that stands in your way is a little (or a lot of) pride.
When you're unsure, don't get defensive. Model the behavior you want your employees to display. Admit you don't have all the answers. Ask questions. Say you were wrong.Actively seek experiences that humble you--that's the best way to learn.

4. You value your work more than the work of others.

Most of all us fall prey to this barrier. (I know I do.) Salespeople think marketing is easy; the marketing team simply creates materials and gathers leads. Your marketing team thinks the sales team has it made; all they have to do is close the leads they worked so hard to find. Operations thinks accounting has it made; all they do is count beans. Manufacturing actually makes beans.
Like sticking with what you know, it's a natural tendency: We know every decision, every detail, every step, and every ounce of effort that goes into our roles. We know it's hard.
We forget it's just as hard for everyone else.

5. You nod when you don't understand.

Do you admit when you don't "get" something? It's not always easy. Sometime it's even embarrassing, especially if everyone else appears to be in the know.
Asking questions because you don't understand may be embarrassing for you, but it's even more embarrassing for your employees, especially if they're afraid to look back in front of you. ("If I ask a question, the boss will think I don't know my job...")

Never try to save face; you lose a lot more than you save. If you don't understand, admit it.

 
You'll get the answers you need... and you'll signal to your employees that making great decisions based on great information is all that matters.
Source: Inc

 
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