Saturday, 15 April 2017

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Fake it until you make it
Mumbai Mirror Bureau

Feel like the odd one out at fancy parties?

Here's all you need to know to fit in when you hobnob with the upper crust

When you're Jack and she's Rose (James Cameron's Titanic) or, for a more contemporary pop culture comparison, you're Madhav and she's Riya (Half Girlfriend -based on author Chetan Bhagat's book, the film is slated to be released next month), socialising can be incredibly stressful. It's hard to be at a champagne brunch when you're really more of a burgers-andbeer kind of person.

But whether you're dating someone who rolls with a different crowd or whether your career requires you to socialise with sophisticates, these occasions are bound to come up. Suneeta Kanga, Bandra-based corporate trainer, coach and etiquette expert says there's no need to fret. Follow her guide and you can look like you belong until you do.

Power dinner
Firstly, allow the server to pull out the chair for you. This is true for men and women if it's a very fancy restaurant that has multiple servers waiting on each table. If the server is attending to your date, then, it's fine to pull out your own chair, wait for her to sit and then take a seat, and keep your elbows off the table at all times. Take the napkin, open it out and lay it on your lap.

All your movements should be really slow. You shouldn't seem like you're in any rush to order the wine or the food, or to eat for that matter. The whole idea is to enjoy the ambiance and the conversation, so eat really slowly. If you don't know which fork to use for what course, work your way in from the outermost cutlery, course by course.

Follow these dining dos and don'ts: Never put your napkin on the table until the whole meal is over -your partner must finish eating too; never blow on your food to cool it down, and never slurp; always drink wine and water with your right hand (even if you're a leftie); always break bread into bite-sized pieces and use a butter knife to smear the butter on; never dip your bread into the butter, instead, lift some of the butter with your knife and place it on your side plate (yours is the one to your left -to remember that, follow the BMW rule, ie, bread is to your left, the meal is in the centre and wine is to your right).

Make the right moves
If you're at a party where there's a DJ and a dance floor, certainly take advantage of it, but your dance moves should be restrained.Do not take your drink to the dance floor and do not eat or smoke on the dance floor.

It's acceptable to dance with someone other than your partner, but your first and last dance must be with the lady you're with.

When in doubt
When appetisers are being passed around, don't pick up anything that looks very complicated to eat, and never pick anything that's bigger than your mouth, or which seems like it will be a messy eat.

If there are dishes that you're not familiar with, ideally, wait and watch how someone else does it.If you're trying something new, be prepared to hate it, and control your expression if you do.

Don't be a boor around booze
Any stemware, whether it's a cocktail glass or a wine glass, should be held from the stem or underneath, never from the glass.If it's a glass that doesn't have a stem, like a high ball glass or a whisky glass, hold it with two fingers near the base and two fingers under the base.

At parties where you're standing around, your drink must be held in your left hand, so the right hand is free when you need to greet someone.

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