If you dont have a nice circle of friends, that are fun and who also encourage you to get ahead in life, then youre either shy about meeting and making friends, or youre not exactly sure about how to do it. On the other hand, perhaps youre already trying to meet new people, but youre getting the results you want, because youre not using the best strategies that could easily bring great people into your life. In this article, I want to share with you how you can stop shyness from sabotaging your social life, and how to start meeting friends. If you want to beat your shyness by learning to build confidence, it can take you a long time, because shyness is deeply wired into your emotions. Instead of trying to change your shyness, I recommend that you focus on learning how to do what shyness is preventing you from doing. Social Competence is key. The more you know about how the social world works, and how to socialize, the less discouraging mistakes youll make, and the more friends youll have. Here are a couple of tips you can use: Tip #1 How to get comfortable in a social situation If youre shy about going to a party, or to a social gathering, then a simple switch that can help is to go EARLY. If you do this, youll give yourself some time to get used to the surrounding and feel comfortable gradually before it gets crowded with people. If you know the host, then you could offer to help out. That might allow you to be more comfortable by having something to do. Tip #2 What to do when people invite you, but you are nervous about accepting Do you find yourself in the situation of declining peoples invitations, but regretting it afterwards, because you know you want to go? What you can do in this situation, is to accept the invitation, and have a back-up plan. This allows you to leave the place if you get too nervous and cant handle the social pressure. You can tell the person that invited you that you dont know how long you can stay, because youre expecting a call from someone and you may need to leave to help him or her out with something. This allows you to either stay if you feel comfortable, or leave, if you dont. Either way, you win. Tip #3 How to clearly express your opinion, if youre not used to it Expressing your opinion is important, but if youre not used to doing it, it can feel scary. One way to overcome this is to use humor. Offering ideas in a light or even silly manner is less intimidating. The more you focus on HOW to socialize, the quicker youll find answers. I suggest that you stay open to new ideas when it comes to social skills like keeping conversations going, meeting people, and building your social circle Source: LifeHack. How to Stop Being Shy Competence over Confidence
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