Friday, 17 October 2014

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from Tickled By Life by Guest Tickler
Two  critical skills which the highest performing managers have in spades are the ability to influence and persuade. The most obvious targets for your powers of persuasion are your team, and sometimes your peers in different departments; but just as you need to manage down or sideways , it's also critical you know how to manage upwards.
Do it well, and you'll shine. Do it badly and you could muddy your reputation and find yourself being passed over for advancement.
To help you make the right impression, here are four simple rules to remember, which will move you in the right direction.

1. Find out what the expectations are – and exceed them. Sounds obvious and simple – yet in my experience it's neither! Try to answer the following questions:
Do you actually know what your manager's top priorities are?
How clear are you about the order of priority your manager has for each area of your performance? How clear do you think your manager is about his/her expectations of you?
Sometimes expectations are written – but more often than not, they are unwritten expectations, which your boss may never have really clearly articulated to themselves, let alone you!
Put it this way -  if you don't know for sure what will score you top points with this individual, you may find yourself chasing down the wrong rabbit hole.
And this is NOT about currying favour, or ingratiating yourself. This is about having a clear understanding on both sides about what is important, so you both know and agree where you should focus most of your time and attention. It actually makes your job easier.
So – if you don't know the answers to the questions above – make a date in your diary to discuss this with your boss! (And before you actually have that meeting, make sure you read technique 4!)

2. Anticipate and address a boss' concerns The trick here is a technique from what we call Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and is about being able to see the different "perceptual positions" around an issue. Put simply this means seeing something through someone else's eyes, so you understand their thoughts, feelings, worries and perspectives.
An obvious way is to ask them! And we'd definitely encourage you to fnd the right opportunities to do just that. However, sometimes there's neither time, nor is it appropriate. So what do you do then? You put yourself in their shoes. And when we say in their shoes – we mean wearing their shoes and looking through their eyes!This is not how you would feel in their shoes. You're not them!
So, this is easier said than done. But here's a few killer questions to ask yourself:
What will my  boss be anxious about?
What do his bosses expect of him?
How does what I do to help him/her look good?
If I/we do "x", what might he/she be concerned about?
By answering these questions you'll be much clearer about what you need to do to both pre-empt and address their concerns. It also significantly increases their perception you really understand where they are coming from, which in turn significantly  strengthens the trust and relationship between you.

3. Consistently look for ways to add value. This is a really simple rule. Bosses are more likely to listen if you speak in "can-do" language, and you are organised, and sound enthusiastic and eager to deliver results.
Look ahead when discussing a project, rather than dwelling on what's already occurred. Follow through on promises. And adopt a "no-excuses" policy. Failing to produce results almost guarantees a boss will doubt your abilities. So, if you haven't quite achieved what you set out to do – rather than saying what you've not been able to do, start with what you have achieved; be specific about what barriers there were, and summarise your plans to get back on track.
Your boss has pressures of his own. Don't add to them.

4. Know your style – and know their style; and adapt your behaviour to suit their preferences. A great analogy from relationship expert Shay McConnon is that of the "hot chilli trap". What is this? It's when someone assumes that, because they love hot chilli, everyone else does too! Patently, some people do not like hot chilli!
If you're in a foreign country you at least attempt to learn "please" and "thank you" in their language and show respect for their customs. It's just courtesy. You adapt your own behaviour to show respect for the differences of perception.

To assume, because we speak the same language, we see things in the same way  – is quite clearly erroneous, yet we still persist in believing the mantra "treat others as you'd like to be treated."
Absolutely not! Treat others as they would like to be treated.
So what does this mean for you in your relationship with your boss? It means the more you get to understand their style and preferences, and tweak your style to match, the more likely they are to warm towards you. If you lean towards an eye for detail and precision, but your boss just wants the big picture – give it that way. What is their biggest strength? Capitalise on it. What is their central goal? How can you assist? If they are extroverts who like to talk through ideas, provide that opportunity. If they are introverts who like to be able to read through something, and ponder it first, present your proposals in a way which will help them assimilate the information and ask questions.
Respect how they like to be treated.

And what if they don't show the same trespect for you? Well, that's a subject for another article!
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Shona Garner is an experienced Executive and Business Coach, specialising in helping managers build top performing teams, and increase their own standing in the organisation.
For a straight talking, practical guide to the top four secrets of every outstanding manager, visit
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[www.keralites.net] 6 Questions to Ask Yourself to Overcome Fear

 



 
 

 
On the other hand successful people are those who take risks in life. Successful people understand that taking risks will lead them experience new horizons in their field, will give them more vision and more confidence,  give them wisdom and success by exposing them to more and more challenges and consequently help them achieve their dreams. Such people keep taking new risks in order to achieve what they want to achieve. Whenever there is a doubtful situation they take the next baby step in order to determine whether it is fine to move ahead. In case they fail, they take one step back and re-determine their direction using their analytical skills. 

 

 

 
Question-1: Do I have enough info in making this decision?
Answer: You may or may not have the full information as of now. However you can gather all the facts by consulting the right professionals, by reading books, by discussing with your friends and well-wishers, by posting your questions to online forums, by studying the market and by taking advice from experienced people. Once you have collected all the information, write it on a piece of paper; positive points on one side and negative points on another side. Now read them slowly with full focus. Once done, you are all set for making the decision.

 
Question-2: What if I fail?
Answer: Consider the worst case scenario as this gives you inner strength and makes you prepare for it. However if the worst case as per your thinking is a serious disaster then reduce your risks by reducing your goals, your investment, energies, efforts etc. Change some of the points from your original plan and re-asses the worst case.

 
Question-3: Do I have the capability to do it:  
Answer: See if you can learn it by reading, training, counseling or brain storming. Believe in your inner powers. List down the capabilities required for a specific task and start polishing yourself in each domain one by one. This might take some time but once you learn and polish your skills you will be able to make wonders in your domain.



 
Question-4: What will people say?  
Answer: People will comment any way. It's your life and you have all the authority to do what you want to do in order to achieve what you want to achieve. Don't worry about social factors, instead focus on your plans and decisions. Evil social factors will die their death one by one once you start producing the results. Strengthen your thoughts, avoid the unnecessary criticism and you will be able to set new trends in your domain.

 
Question-5: Is anyone else afraid of same thing? 
Answer: Yes everyone is afraid of failures but only bold people make bold moves to accomplish things. Remember, common people see things while they are happening whereas smart people make things happen.

 
Question-6: What If I am trapped in tragic Situation:
Answer: To overcome a tragic fearful situation is to think of a genius person and imagine how he would have acted under the same condition. You will definitely get a new idea to try.

 

 
Closing my article by emphasizing one more time to throw your fears away, convert your risks into new opportunities, execute your plans and live like an independent and prosperous soul. Your inner confidence, your guts and your will power can make things happen. If others can do it you can do it too so believe in the power of now and go ahead and grab the success.

 
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[www.keralites.net] BEAUTIFUL LINES OF A POEM.

 

 
When I'll be dead.....,Your tears will flow,..But I won't know.   Cry for me now instead !
you will send flowers,But I won't see.                                        Send them now instead !
You'll say words of praise,..But I won't hear,                              Praise me now instead !
You'll forget my faults,..But I won't know.                             Forget them now, Instead !
You'll miss me then,.But I won't feel,                                           
Miss me now, instead !
You'll wish...You could have spent more time with me,                 Spend it now instead !!
Moral......
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Spend time with every person you love,Every one you care for.Make them feel special,
For you never know when time will take them away from you.         *
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Nice Lines!!!!!!!!
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Neither u can hug urself, nor u can cry on ur own shoulder.
Life is all about living for one another,  so, live with those who love u the most...   *
Relations cannot be Understood by the Language of Money...Bcoz,
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Some Investments Never Give Profit But They Make us rich.!
बचपन में सबसे अधिक पूछा गया एक सवाल ।-बड़े होकर क्या बनना है....?
अब जाकर जवाब मिला ।-फिर से बच्चा बनना है ....!!
 
SUPERB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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After his father's death, the Son decided to leave his mother at old age home and visited her on and off.Once he received a call from old age home....Mom very serious ..... please come to visit. Son went  and saw mom very critical, on her dying bed.
He asked: Mom what can I do for you? - Mom replied... "Please install fans in the old age home, there are none.... Also put a fridge for betterment of food because many times I slept without food".
 
Son was surprised and asked: mom, while you were here you never complained, now you have few hours left and you are telling me all this, why?
Mom replied....."it's OK dear, I've managed with the heat, hunger pain, but when your children will send you here, I am afraid you will not be able to manage "Truth"
Truth no 1 :
nobody is real in this world except "Mother.."       *
Truth no. 2 :
a poor person has no friends..                                 *
Truth no. 3 :
people do not like good thoughts they like good looks.. 
Truth no 4 :
people respect the money not the person.. 
Truth no 5 :
the person you love the most, will hurt you the most !       * 
Truth no 6 :
"Truth is Simple, But, The Moment YOU try to Explain it...
It Becomes Difficult"  
Truth no 7 :
"When you are happy you enjoy the music", but
"when you are sad, you understand the lyrics". 
Truth no 8 :
IN LIFE Two things define you -
"Your patience" when you have nothing...
"Your attitude" when you have everything...
Rightly said "The internet shows us how small the world is...but a missing plane
shows, how big our planet is.."..               *                     

 
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