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Listening!   Listening is one of the most important skills you should have. How well you listen has a major impact on your job, effectiveness, and on the quality of your relationships.   It takes a lot of concentration and determination to be an active listener. Be deliberate with your listening and remind yourself constantly that your goal is to truly hear what the other person is saying. Set aside all other thoughts and behaviors and concentrate on the message. Ask question, reflect, and paraphrase to ensure you understand the message. Use active listening to become a better communicator and to improve your work - productivity and relationships.   We remember 25-30% of what we hear. That means that when you talk to your boss, colleagues, customers or spouse for 10 minutes, they only really hear 2.5-3 minutes of the conversation. Same way when you are receiving directions or information, you aren't hearing the whole message either.   Clearly, listening is a skill that we can all benefit. By becoming a better listener, you will improve your productivity, as well as your ability to influence, persuade negotiate. You'll avoid conflict and misunderstandings.   Good communication skills require a high level of self-awareness. By understanding your personal style of communicating, you will go a long way towards creating good and lasting impressions with others in active listening you make a conscious effort to hear not only the words but, more importantly, to try and understand the total message of other person.   You cannot allow yourself to be distracted or to lose focus on what the other person is saying otherwise may be a very important message goes above head.   To enhance your listening skills, you need to let the other person know that you are listening to what he or she is saying. Acknowledgement can be something as simple as a nod of the head or a simple 'uh huh'. You aren't necessarily agreeing with the person, you are simply indicating that you are listening. Using body language and other signs to acknowledge you are listening also reminds you to pay attention and not let your mind wander.   You should also try to respond to the speaker in a way that will both encourage him or her to continue speaking, so that you can get the information if you need.   There are some key elements to Becoming an Active Listener.   Pay attention : - Give the speaker your undivided attention and acknowledge the message. - Look at the speaker directly. - Put aside distracting thoughts. Don't mentally prepare a negativity about speaker - Avoid being distracted by environmental factors. See body language of speaker. - Refrain from talking in a group setting. Show that you are listening : - Use your own body language and gestures to convey your attention. - Nod occasionally. - Encourage the speaker to continue with small verbal comments like yes, and uh huh. Defer judgment : - Interrupting is a waste of time. It frustrates the speaker and limits full understanding of the message. - Allow the speaker to finish. - Don't interrupt with counter-arguments. Respond Appropriately : Active listening is a model for respect and understanding. You are gaining information and perspective. - Be honest in your response. - Give your opinions respectfully.

 

 

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[www.keralites.net] Fwd: Don’t Give Sorrow, Don’t Take Sorrow!!

 

 

Don't Give Sorrow, Don't Take Sorrow! Don't give sorrow, don't take sorrow! The qualities that stop me giving sorrow are mercy, love and honesty. If someone has these, they will never even think of giving sorrow. I need to be merciful not to give sorrow and I need to be strong in order not to take sorrow. In fact, the moment you stop taking sorrow, you days of happiness have begun. These are your eyes, ears and lips – it is up to you whether to take sorrow or not. The Search For Happiness And A Beautiful Relationship Throughout history, human beings have desired and searched for two things, happiness and a perfect loveful and beautiful relationship.   It is interesting to realize that you cannot search for what, you have not already had or known. In other words, we search for these two things because inside us we have a deep subconscious memory of the original, perfect and eternal relationship with our Friend, Guide and Parent, the One remembered as God, Allah, Ishwar, etc.   It is only when we restore our relationship with this Being is that we can experience true happiness or bliss.   Bliss is the highest form of spiritual happiness we can experience.  It is experienced only when we are free of all attachment, when we no longer identify wrongly with anything physical and when our inner mental state is not dependent on anything or anyone.   At its highest level and in its purest state, our relationship with God is non-dependent and unconditional, and therefore blissful.   Deep within the soul, there is a memory of the bliss of this perfect union and it is this memory that inspires us to search for the perfect relationship, for the perfect happiness.   However, instead of seeking it at the spiritual level, we seek at the level of personality and body.   We search in those around us for the perfect partner - our soul mate. It is not incorrect to have worldly relationships, but there needs to be a deep realization inside each one of us that our true soul mate, is the One with whom we can have an ever-lasting, eternal relationship, the One with whom we have the deepest eternal bond (over a period of many births), the One from whom we will experience everlasting, eternal, unconditional attainments. What happens when your anger button gets pushed? Do you get all heated up? Do you let your emotions erupt on someone else? As anger increases, perspective reasoning decreases; rather than adding fuel to the fire, often the best thing we can do is give ourselves a moment to recuperate, even if it's just briefly. Take a deep breath, then several more deep breaths. Come back to calm, consider how you want to respond. When you have a moment, reflect on how you want to handle things, the next time your anger buttons get pushed. Message for the day Every change is a means to take one forward for those who are positive. Thought to Ponder: For the one who is positive, change brings progress. Otherwise, most changes are seen as threats to our well-being. So, for everything that happens in my life, I need to see what positive outcome is inherent in it. This will help me be open to change in the right way. Point to Practice: Today I will make a list of major changes in my life in the past 15 years or so. I will see what I have learnt from it. This will help me appreciate the fact that there is some beautiful outcome for everything that has happened.

 

 

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[www.keralites.net] Fwd: 17 Things to Raise A More Confident Child!

 

17 Things to Raise A More Confident Child!   Confidence is one of the greatest gifts a parent can give their child.    Carl Pickhardt, a psychologist and author of 15 parenting books, says a kid who lacks confidence will be reluctant to try new or challenging things because they're scared of failing or disappointing others. This can end up holding them back later in life and prevent them from having a successful career. "The enemies of confidence are discouragement and fear," he says. So, as a parent, it's your job to encourage and support your child as they attempt to tackle difficult tasks. Here are 17 more tips for raising a confident child: Natalie Walters contributed to a previous version of this article. 1. Appreciate effort no matter if they win or lose When you're growing up, the journey is more important than the destination. So whether your child makes the winning goal for his team or accidentally kicks it out of bounds, applaud their effort, Pickhardt says. They should never feel embarrassed for trying. "Over the long haul, consistently trying hard builds more confidence than intermittently doing well," he explains. 2. Encourage practice to build competence Encourage your child to practice whatever it is they're interested in -- but do so without putting too much pressure on them. Harmony Shu, a piano prodigy, told Ellen DeGeneres that she started practicing when she was just 3 years old. "Practice invests effort in the confident expectation that improvement will follow," Pickhardt explains. 3. Let them figure out problems by themselves   (AP)   If you do the hard work for your child then they'll never develop the abilities or the confidence to figure out problems on their own. "Parental help can prevent confidence derived from self-help and figuring out on the child's own," Pickhardt explains. In other words, better that your child gets a few B's and C's rather than straight A's, so long as they are actually learning how to solve the problems and do the work. 4. Let them act their age Don't expect your child to act like an adult. "When a child feels that only performing as well as parents is good enough, that unrealistic standard may discourage effort," he says. "Striving to meet advanced age expectations can reduce confidence." 5. Encourage curiosity http://www.dailytenminutes.com/2015/07/parenting-10-steps-for-monitoring-and.html Sometimes a child's endless stream of questions can be tiresome, but it should be encouraged. Paul Harris of Harvard University told The Guardian that asking questions is a helpful exercise for a child's development because it means they realize that "there are things they don't know ... that there are invisible worlds of knowledge they have never visited." When children start school, those from households that encouraged curious questions have an edge over the rest of their classmates because they've had practice taking in information from their parents, The Guardian reported, and that translates to taking in information from their teacher. In other words, they know how to learn better and faster. 6. Give them new challenges Show your child that they can make and accomplish small goals to reach a big accomplishment -- like riding a bike without training wheels. "Parents can nurture confidence by increasing responsibilities that must be met," Pickhardt explains. 7. Avoid creating short cuts or making exceptions for your child Special treatment can communicate a lack of confidence, Pickhardt says. "Entitlement is no substitute for confidence." 8. Never criticise their performance Nothing will discourage your child more than criticizing his or her efforts. Giving useful feedback and making suggestions is fine -- but never tell them they're doing a bad job. If your kid is scared to fail because they worry you'll be angry or disappointed, they'll never try new things. "More often than not, parental criticism reduces the child's self-valuing and motivation," says Pickhardt. 9. Treat mistakes as building blocks for learning "Learning from mistakes builds confidence," he says. But this only happens when you, as a parent, treat mistakes as an opportunity to learn and grow. Don't be over-protective of your child. Allow them to mess up every now and then, and help them understand how they can better approach the task next time. Pickhardt says parents should see "uh-oh" moments as an opportunity to teach their kids not to fear failure. 10. Open the door to new experiences Pickhardt says you, as a parent, have a responsibility to "increase life exposures and experiences so the child can develop confidence in coping with a larger world." Exposing children to new things teaches them that no matter how scary and different something seems, they can conquer it. 11. Teach them what you know how to do   You are your child's hero -- at least until they're a teenager. Use that power to teach them what you know about how to think, act, and speak. Set a good example, and be a role model. Pickhardt says watching you succeed will help your child be more confident that they can do the same. 12. Don't tell them when you're worried about them  Parental worry can often be interpreted by the child as a vote of no confidence, he says. "Expressing parental confidence engenders the child's confidence." 13. Praise them when they deal with adversity  Life is not fair. It's hard, and every child will have to learn that at some point. When they do encounter hardships, Pickhardt says parents should point out how enduring these challenges will increase their resilience. It's important to remind your child that every road to success is filled with setbacks, he adds. 14. Offer your help and support, but not too much of it Giving too much assistance too soon can reduce the child's ability for self-help, says Pickhardt. "Making parental help contingent on the child's self-help first can build confidence." 15. Applaud their courage to try something new  Whether it's trying out for the travel basketball team or going on their first roller coaster, Pickhardt says parents should praise their kids for trying new things. He suggests saying something as simple as, "You are brave to try this!" "Comfort comes from sticking to the familiar; courage is required to dare the new and different," he says. 16. Celebrate the excitement of learning       Parenting - Reasons Behind Children's Unexpected Behavior Prepare Children for the Road, Not prepare Road for Children The Tree Test for People in Your Life A Reminder for Husbands The Role of Fathers 10 Highly Effective Study Habits Kids look to their parents for how they should react to things. So if you get excited about them learning how to swim, or speaking a new language, then they'll be excited about those things too. "Learning is hard work and, when accomplished, creates confidence to learn more, so celebrate this willingness to grow," Pickhardt advises. 17. Be authoritative, but not too forceful or strict When parents are too strict or demanding, the child's confidence to self-direct can be reduced. "Dependence on being told can keep the child from acting bold," he says. Source: TheIndependent

 

 

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