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[www.keralites.net] An Argument Against Arguments

An Argument Against Arguments

How do arguments begin? They begin with a difference of opinions, perhaps, coupled with an impatience to calmly discuss your opposing views. This impatience leads to anger, which leads to an argument, and can lead to fighting. These days, it seems like everyone is arguing about something or other, but after reading this, I hope you'll agree - we can do without them.

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Re: [www.keralites.net] His Success is that he does NOT know what is COMMUNISM.

Mr. Gangadara Nair is correct. If all are SavjoBai in the society , they need not know communism

But the problem is ninety nine percent are social parasites and they eat and store the wealth.

There communism shall speak and communism shall be known.

On Wed, Oct 29, 2014 at 11:08 AM, Gangadharan Nair N ng.puthoor@gmail.com [Keralites] <Keralites@yahoogroups.com> wrote:

Interesting NDTV INTERVIEW.....

A diamond merchant in Gujarat has gifted over 1,000 employees cars, homes and jewellery as Diwali bonus in a stunning act of generosity,

Oprah-style. Savjibhai Dholakiya says his workers deserve big rewards for their hard work and loyalty.

Here are highlights of his interview with NDTV's Ravish:

This is God's blessing that I have come this far from zero. I had nothing.This is God's gift.

I have experienced this in my life that I will not have less if I give.

It is the law of nature.

When I sow one seed, I'll have hundred.

These are my employees. They will not let me suffer losses.

So we thought that we should have a loyalty programme.

In 1991 when we started the company, our exports were worth Rs 1 Crore now it's close to

Rs 6,000 Crore.

Our employees are responsible for this growth.

We analysed the work done by these 1

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200 people and realised that they had a major role in taking us forward.

People should hear about these 1

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200 people and be inspired. Everyone should feel responsible for their own work.

People have skills but they need motivation.

We had our own method of choosing people.

My son has done an MBA from New York and has been working with me for 6 years.

Everyone got together and analysed who are the people responsible for our growth.

We know who has added what value to the company.

What we have given them is nothing compared to the effort put in by these people.

You are speaking to a person who has had little formal education but I read everyday,

learn everyday. I inspire myself, motivate myself.

I have studied till the 4th Grade. I dropped out of school when I was 12 and joined the diamond industry.

I did their kind of work in Surat for 10 years with my brothers.

All four brothers put together will not make a graduate.

My youngest brother is the most educated - he made it to the 10th Grade.

Q: Are you a Communist?

I don't understand what 'communist' means. Is there a Gujarati word for it?

I have learnt whatever little Hindi I know speaking to people like you.

In the next five years, you'll see how this impacts the diamond industry.

We had decided on a budget of Rs.50 Crores.

I wanted to give cars to everyone but then we found out that about 200 employees don't have their own houses.

Then we found out that there were 500 people who had both houses and cars.

So we then thought we should give them jewellery for their wives.

Wives support the workers who work here. We do not give priority to wives in Gujarat so we thought this should be our priority.

I am happy that you've highlighted this effort. I did not expect it. I think people will be inspired by this move.

Even in your industry, the mindsets will change and you'll have higher salaries.

I'm a very ordinary man and you've made me very big.

This stadium belongs to our factory because I saw Ganguly play cricket in London.

My workers play cricket and I sit in the pavilion and watch them.

We have a gym, a steam-sauna facility. We have other sports facilities; the managers and workers play volleyball together.

Whether the government gives us an exemption in taxes or not it doesn't matter.

Paying your taxes will not kill you. These 1200 people have contributed over Rs.10 Crores to taxes.

I have decided to call diamond-cutters 'Diamond Engineers' because they may not be educated but they work better than engineers.

And we want to call the workers who polish diamonds 'Diamond Artists'.

These people earn Rs. 70-80,000 a work. They're people who earn by their talent and skill.

I have workers from 21 states in India and 361 villages.

Everyone's parents know me because I take them on pilgrimages to Haridwar. We're indebted to their parents too.

I'm in what is called 'social business'.

When you give money to someone, the responsibility of the person who takes that money increases.

I am a businessmen. I want more therefore I'm paying more. I'm not doing anyone a favour.

I have with three others have bought a plane to start charter service for Surat.

The idea is to give a service not profit. But you see in the next five years this too will be profitable.

I'm trying to show businessmen what they can do. I'm also telling all workers to work hard like

my workers do so that your bosses are compelled to act.....

No one from the Surat diamond industry has told me what I'm doing is wrong.....I am a trader

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I give first and then I take... some people do it the other way round.

By God's grace, none of the 28 members in the family go against what I say.

My wife or brothers have never disagreed with what I do.

I had given three Maruti cars as gifts 18 years ago. They cost Rs.52,000 each and I had no money then.

We have never sacked people but there are 2 or 3 per cent people who sometimes do not fit our criteria

- but some of them get training and come back and we hire them again.

I train my workers - they do not chew tobacco, they respect their parents.....

My factory is not to make diamonds, it makes

MEN.

(Meri factory heerey bananey ki nahi hain, manav bananey ki hai)

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[www.keralites.net] 5 Step Approach to Managing Anger

If something happens that makes you feel angry (like not being allowed to go to a party until you clean your room), this approach can help you manage your reaction.It is called a problem-solving approach because you start with the problem you are mad about. Then you weigh your choices and decide what you will do.
Each step involves asking yourself a couple of questions, then answering them based on your particular situation. Let us take the example from the start of this article: Your mom has just told you to clean your room or stay home. You really want to go to that party. The red-hot anger starts building. Here is what to do:

1) Tune in to your feelings (self-awareness). Start by noticing what you are angry about and why. Put into words what is making you upset so you can act rather than react.

Ask yourself: What is got me angry? What am I feeling and why? You can do this either in your mind or out loud, but it needs to be clear and specific. For example: "I am really angry at Mom because she wont let me go to the party until I clean my room. It is not fair!" Your feeling is anger, and you are feeling angry because you might not get to go to the party.

Notice that this is not the same as saying, "Mom is so unfair to me." That statement does not identify the specific problem (that you can not go to the party until you clean your room) and it does not say how you are feeling (angry).

2) Stop and think (self-control). This is where you stop for a minute to give yourself time to manage your anger. It is also where you start thinking of how you might react - but without reacting yet.

Ask yourself: What can I do? Think of at least three things. For example, in this situation you might think:

(a) I could yell at Mom and throw a fit.
(b) I could clean my room and then ask if I could go to the party.
(c) I could sneak out to the party anyway.

3) Consider your options (think it through). This is where you think about what is likely to result from each of the different reactions you came up with.

Ask yourself: What will happen for each one of these options? For example:

(a) Yelling at your mom may get you in worse trouble or even grounded.

(b) Cleaning your room takes work and you may get to the party late (but hey, arriving late may add to your mystique). With this option, you get to go to the party and your room is clean so you don not have to worry about it for a while.
(c) Sneaking out may seem like a real option in the heat of anger. But when you really think it through, it is pretty unlikely you would get away with being gone for hours with no one noticing. And when you do get caught - look out!

4) Make a decision (pick one of your options). This is where you take action by choosing one of the three things you could do. Look at the list and pick the one that is likely to be most effective.

Ask yourself: What is my best choice? By the time you have thought it through, you are probably past yelling at your mom, which is a knee-jerk response. You may have also decided that sneaking out is too risky. Neither of these options is likely to get you to the party. So option (b) probably seems like the best choice.

Once you choose your solution, then it is time to act.

5) Check your progress. After you have acted and the situation is over, spend some time thinking about how it went.

Ask yourself: How did I do? Did things work out as I expected? If not, why not? Am I satisfied with the choice I made? Taking some time to reflect on how things worked out after it is all over is a very important step. It helps you learn about yourself and it allows you to test which problem-solving approaches work best in different situations.

Give yourself a pat on the back if the solution you chose worked out well. If it did not, go back through the five steps and see if you can figure out why.

These five steps are pretty simple when you are calm, but are much tougher to work through when you are angry or sad (kind of like in basketball practice when making baskets is much easier than in a real game when the pressure is on!). So it helps to practice over and over again.

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