Wednesday, 13 March 2013

[www.keralites.net] Bad to Good: 8 Steps to Overcoming Bad Situations

 

So never a week passes without having to deal with something bad and you feel like you're a bad luck magnet. Well life has always been that unpredictable and part of it has to deal with sudden misfortunes and problems. Now your job is to get through it and move on, detach yourself from what's not helpful and focus on what give you a better day. Here are 8 ways to cope:

1. Free yourself of frustrations. Learn to let go of some of the negative energies inside because if you don't you'll probably find yourself exploding at one point. So go ahead and vent them out, get a journal, talk to a friend and release the negativity. Ventilating your frustrations will give enough room for positivity to come in; furthermore, it will give you a feeling of relief that can somehow change your mood and outlook.

2. Learn to be objective. Look into the situation carefully and detach yourself emotionally asthis can only cloud your judgment. When you learn to look at things at a more objective view, your judgments and decisions become a little more sound and wise. Emotions tend to cloud our judgement and that's no way to resolve a conflict.

3. Look around you – there are people who actually care. No matter how difficult the situation is, you need to realize that some people are actually there for you and that there's no need to detach yourself from them. Their guidance and advice can actually help you get through a bad time.

4. Change your mind set. You may think that all this emotional detachment will help you overcome a difficult time; think again and assess carefully. If you are not that hurt or traumatize, there might be no need to detach yourself, a little thinking and space will help you get back on your feet. Furthermore, keep in mind that you do have a choice – either to let these bad things overwhelm you or to let these stuffs make you a better person.

 

5. Shift your focus. Instead of wallowing in emotional hurt and detaching yourself from people who care about you, try focusing on what you can do. You have always been faced with difficult situations but you've always managed to get out of it alive. What's keeping you from doing so this time then? Being frustrated will never help resolve the problem. You need to focus on your strengths rather than your weakness.


6. Do not be afraid to ask help. You might feel that emotional detachment from other people have left you with no one; you're wrong. Do not be afraid to reach out and ask for help. Call you closest friend or your sister, talk to someone. Asking for help is never a sign of weakness; it shows that you are brave enough to acknowledge that you cannot handle things on your own.

7. Constantly challenge yourself to overcome bad situations. Think of the countless times you've been faced with trials and problems which you thought you would never surpass but did. Use these moments and experiences as a source to fuel your spirit to continue fighting and winning!

8. Extract the lessons learned. Detaching yourself from people and hurtful things might be difficult but they sure did have valuable lessons for you. Take these lessons and ponder on them; they might come in handy one of these days. Most of the times, we learn to appreciate the lessons after we have conquered and battled through the fight; much like enjoying and appreciating the rainbow after the storm


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[www.keralites.net] Garden, Grass and Garbage

 

There is a garden near the place I live. My kids enjoy playing there. The garden service team trims the grass every 3-4 weeks. When the grass is trimmed it looks so lively, lovely and fresh. Kids enjoy and spend more time in the garden. After 2 weeks or so, the grass starts getting taller and turning yellow. This makes the garden unattractive. Also I noticed that the day grass is trimmed and someone throws a cigarette box or any other garbage it looks extremely bad however when the grass is taller and someone throws something, it's hardly visible. If I consider the grass as human brain and the grass as negative thoughts and cigarette box as stress then I learn a very good moral from this analogy. Let me explain this: When I don't have any negative thoughts and stress I have a beautiful, powerful and fresh mind offering great services to the society, family and all humanity. However if I have negative thoughts (and in turn negative behavior) I start becoming the point of concern for the society, family, friends and colleagues. And when I have too many negative thoughts, I start nourishing roots of stress even if I don't know about it, just like the cigarette box not visible when grass is tall. Hence it is recommended to 'trim the grass' quite often. In my analogy, trimming the grass means to throw away unnecessary thoughts and clean the mind from such garbage. When I have a clean mind (like trimmed grass), I can easily identify the roots of stress (cigarette box in trimmed grass) and easily handle the situation with my analytical skills eventually making my life more beautiful.


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[www.keralites.net] Pension to Sports Persons

 

 
The Minister of State (Independent Charge) for Youth Affairs & Sports Shri Jitendra Singh has said that there is already a Scheme titled "Scheme of Pension to Meritorious Sportspersons" under which medal winners in  Olympic Games, Commonwealth Games, Asian Games and World Cups/World Championships (in Olympic and Asian Games disciplines) and Para-Olympic Games, after they attain the age of 30 years or retire from active sports, whichever is later, are eligible for monthly pension at following rates:
S.No.
Category of meritorious sportspersons
Rate of Pension
(Rs./per month)
1
Medalists at the Olympic Games
10000
2
Gold medalists at the World Cup/World Championships in Olympic and Asian Games disciplines
8000
3
Silver and Bronze medalists at the World Cup/World Championships in Olympic and Asian Games disciplines
7000
4
Gold medalists of the Asian/Commonwealth Games
7000
5
Silver and Bronze  medalists of the Asian/Commonwealth Games
6000
6
Gold Medalists of Para-Olympic Games
5000
7
Silver medalists of Para-Olympic Games
4000
8
Bronze Medalists of Para-Olympic Games
3000
In a written reply in the Lok Sabha today Shri Singh said, at present, 620 Sportspersons are getting pension under the "Scheme of Pension to Meritorious Sportspersons" on monthly basis.
The Minister said, the Ministry of Youth Affairs & Sports has a Scheme of National Welfare Fund for Sportspersons, which provides for ex-gratia financial assistance to outstanding sportspersons of yesteryears, now living in indigent circumstances, whose annual income is less than Rs. 2 lakh for medical treatment etc. The funds from the National Welfare Fund for Sportspersons can be utilized for following proposes:
(i) to provide suitable assistance to outstanding sportspersons now living in indigent sportspersons;
(ii) to provide suitable assistance to outstanding sportspersons injured during the period of their training for competitions and also during the competitions, depending on the nature of the injury;
(iii) to provide suitable assistance to outstanding sportspersons who bring glory to the country in the international field and who are disabled as an after-effect of their strenuous training or otherwise and to provide them assistance for medical treatment;
(iv) to administrator and apply the funds of the Fund to promote the welfare of the sportspersons generally in order to alleviate distress among them and their dependents in indigent circumstances;
(v) to administer and apply the funds of the Fund for active sportspersons individually or collectively as a group;
(vi)  to encourage and provide assistance in cash or kind (sports equipments, kit, etc) to budding sportspersons, in their pursuit for achieving excellence in sports;
 (vii) to do all other things which are incidental to the above objectives.
          Shri Jitendra Singh said, quantum of assistance admissible from the National Welfare Fund for Sportspersons is as follows:
(i) Assistance to sportspersons living in indigent circumstances: A lumpsum ex-gratia financial assistance may be granted to an outstanding sportsperson now living in indigent circumstances, subject to a maximum of Rs. 5 lakh.
 (ii) Assistance for injuries sustained during training for and participation in international competitions: A lumpsum financial assistance to an outstanding sportsperson or his/her family may be granted under the Scheme:
(a) in case of sustaining a fatal injury during training  for, or participation in, an international competition, subject  to a maximum of Rs. 5.00 lakh;
(b) in case of sustaining injury other than a fatal injury, subject to a maximum of Rs.2.00 lakh provided that the assistance shall in no case be less than Rs. 10,000/-.
(iii) Assistance to Families of Outstanding Sportspersons :  A lumpsum financial assistance, not exceeding Rs. 2.00 lakh in each case, may also be provided to the families of outstanding sportspersons in indigent circumstances.
(iv) Assistance for Medical Treatment:   Financial assistance not exceeding Rs. 2.00 lakh  mayalso be provided for medical treatment of an outstanding sportsperson in indigent circumstances.
(v) Assistance to Sports Promoters:  Lumpsum financial assistance, not exceeding Rs. 50,000/- may be provided to referees, coaches and umpires, who were eminent, but are not well off and are in indigent circumstances.
The Minister said, the Scheme of National Welfare Fund for Sportspersons also has a clause under which the Chairperson of the General Committee of National Welfare Fund for Sportspersons has the discretionary powers under which the Chairperson may sanction assistance in deserving cases even to those who, technically, are non-eligible, depending upon the facts and circumstances of each case. The Chairperson will have the discretion to decide the quantum of assistance.
          All schemes of the Ministry and the Sports Authority of India are inclusive schemes and are equally applicable to women sportspersons. Further, for encouraging sports among women, sports competitions are held at district, state and national levels under the scheme of National Championship for Women, presently merged with the scheme of Panchayat Yuva Krida aur KhelAbhiyan (PYKKA), the Minister added.
Best Regards
Prakash Nair 

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[www.keralites.net] The Gold Slippers

 

  The Gold Slippers
It was only four days before Christmas. The spirit of the season hadn't yet caught up with me, even though cars packed the parking lot of our local discount store.
Inside the store, it was worse. Shopping carts and last minute shoppers jammed the aisles. Why did I come today? I wondered.
My feet ached almost as much as my head. My list contained names of several people who claimed they wanted nothing but I knew their feelings would be hurt if didn't buy them anything.
Buying for someone who had everything and deploring the high cost of items, I considered gift-buying anything but fun. Hurriedly, I filled my shopping cart with last minute items and proceeded to the long checkout lines. I picked the shortest but it looked as if it would mean at least a 20 minute wait.
In front of me were two small children – a boy of about 5 and a younger girl. The boy wore a ragged coat. Enormously large, tattered tennis shoes jutted far out in front of his much too short jeans. He clutched several crumpled dollar bills in his grimy hands. The girl's clothing resembled her brother's. Her head was a matted mass of curly hair. Reminders of an evening meal showed on her small face.
She carried a beautiful pair of shiny, gold house slippers. As the Christmas music sounded in the store's stereo system, the girl hummed along, off-key but happily.
When we finally approached the checkout register, the girl carefully placed the shoes on the counter. She treated them as though they were a treasure.
The clerk rang up the bill. 'That will be $6.09,' she said. The boy laid his crumpled dollars atop the stand while he searched his pockets. He finally came up with $3.12. 'I guess we will have to put them back, ' he bravely said.
'We will come back some other time, maybe tomorrow.' With that statement, a soft sob broke from the little girl. 'But Jesus would have loved these shoes, ' she cried. 'Well, we'll go home and work some more. Don't cry. We'll come back,' he said.
Quickly I handed $3.00 to the cashier. These children had waited in line for a long time. And, after all, it was Christmas. Suddenly a pair of arms came around me and a small voice said, 'Thank you lady.'
'What did you mean when you said Jesus would like the shoes?' I asked.
The boy answered, 'Our mommy is sick and going to heaven. Daddy said she might go before Christmas to be with Jesus.' The girl spoke, 'My Sunday school teacher said the streets in heaven are shiny gold, just like these shoes.'
'Won't mommy be beautiful walking on those streets to match these shoes?'
My eyes flooded as I looked into her tear streaked face. 'Yes' I answered, 'I am sure she will.'
Silently I thanked God for using these children to remind me of the true spirit of giving.' 'Tis the Season!! Remember that it's better to give than receive.

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[www.keralites.net] "Five reasons -MUST SEE'

 

Five reasons why ALLAH uses problems


 

1. to DIRECT you
2. to INSPECT you
3. to CORRECT you
4. to PROTECT you
5. to PERFECT you

ALLAH is at work in your life even when you do not recognize it or understand it.

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